https://www.mobbing.net/ bullying, bashing, MeToo campaign, cyberbullying, stalking, reputation murder, psychoterror, Bullying by colleagues, Is this bullying? Am I really being bullied? Questions about bullying. In this forum you can inform yourself about mobbing / bullying, discuss it, read reports from other mobbing victims, contact those affected or the press, exchange experiences and write your own contributions against mobbing / bullying. Am I being bullied ? What is typical for mobbing, discussion about mobbing / bullying, , exchange of information. Directly accessible at www.bullyingforum.... de Thu, 06 Aug 2026 20:19:35 GMT vBulletin 60 images/misc/rss.png https://www.mobbing.net/ https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100733-revenge-with-the-help-of-the-tax-office-they-had-hoped-for-a-large-inheritance-and-came-away-empty-handed Wed, 28 May 2025 10:24:07 GMT
My father promised all sorts of people that they would inherit something from him. Among them were people who had good connections to various authorities.

When he died, these people came away empty-handed, as is often the case in families. Shortly before death, people tend to remember their closest relatives, such as their wife or son.

That's normal.

But a few people believed they had a right to inherit because my father was a *&?@!!! May God rest his soul...

Filled with deep hatred, they used their connections. One distant relative in particular, who works or worked for the tax office, caused me a lot of trouble by actually sending me a reminder for a million pounds.

One of her colleagues obviously realised that this was a personal act of revenge. The letter was withdrawn and the proceedings were dropped.




But that wasn't enough. In a further move, the lady sent a list of my accounts to another tax office. I had moved in the meantime, so she wanted to report me to my new place of residence. But that was also unsuccessful. One account no longer existed. Other accounts yielded no or only minimal interest (0.5%).

The particularly ‘questionable’ accounts in Switzerland were even charged negative interest. An experienced tax expert should have known that.

Another shot in the dark!

But I think that when civil servants use their connections to take revenge on others, that is the lowest of the low and the worst kind of bullying!
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Sushi https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100733-revenge-with-the-help-of-the-tax-office-they-had-hoped-for-a-large-inheritance-and-came-away-empty-handed https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100655-knife-attacks-why-would-a-normal-person-need-a-fixed-blade-knife Fri, 25 Apr 2025 09:18:54 GMT

I just saw another report about a knife attack. A student killed another student with a knife and injured three others. I don't know the background or their nationalities. But why would a normal person need a fixed blade knife? It's a lethal weapon and should be banned completely.


Of course, we need knives for certain professions and in the kitchen or hobby room. But what good is a knife when we go to a disco or the cinema? Or to the train station, etc.?

You don't need knives at school either. It's bad enough when differences of opinion are settled with fists. But knives are an absolute no-go!


What is the point of ridiculous bans if knives are not allowed to be carried at certain times in certain places?

Certain types of knives should simply no longer be sold. Knives should be banned in all areas where large numbers of people gather, and the penalties must be appropriately high.
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Burz https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100655-knife-attacks-why-would-a-normal-person-need-a-fixed-blade-knife https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100525-bullying-in-the-club Sat, 08 Feb 2025 16:08:40 GMT Hello,

I am in a dance club where we dance at the weekend and have lessons during the week. You have to register for the lessons, but you can just turn up to dance. There is a “girl Friday” there who also takes these registrations. This lady also dances and I have also turned her down once. A few weeks ago, a lady at the weekend dance asked me if I would do a course with her, which I agreed to. Then my potential dance course partner wanted to register us, to which she got the answer from the “girl for everything” that I had many dance partners. She came back to me with this statement, to which I replied, yes, but not for that day. The “girl Friday” was also able to avert a second registration attempt. The potential dance partner at the time has been ignoring me at the free dance since then.




Recently, the dance instructor approached me and asked me if I would like to attend the class, he had someone for me. The test dance at the free dance was good. Although the course was much emptier than before, the “girl for everything” said there was no more space; whereupon I got a free chair and danced with my mediated lady. At the end of the course, the “girl Friday” told me not to come back.




Do you have any idea what I can do about this, especially to prevent her from always poaching my dance partners?

Many thanks and best regards




]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100525-bullying-in-the-club https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100523-constant-accusations-by-direct-superior Sat, 08 Feb 2025 10:36:15 GMT Every conversation I have had with my line manager in the last two years leaves me devastated. I have been in public service for 40 years, and with the same authority for over 20 years. Two years ago, I swapped jobs at the request of a colleague and moved to a different location. I have since regretted that bitterly. I was promised a higher pay scale. The PR did not agree because the collective agreement does not allow it. My FGL tells me that I “did not arrive well” at the new workplace. I thought that was the reason why my higher pay scale was rejected. That's nonsense, of course. The rumor is in the air, but he doesn't want to tell me the source or more detailed information. I asked several colleagues. Nobody knows or wants to know anything about it. One colleague treats me very badly, but even he says that the rumor is not coming from him.


The day before yesterday, I had another personal conversation with the FGL. At the very end, he told me that an external consultant had complained about me. I had been intrusive! I had email contact with this external person about technical matters and asked for answers several times, most recently politely but firmly, but in no way intrusively. My boss asked me to clarify this with her because we still have to work together. This should take place in the context of a meeting scheduled in about 2 months. Of course, the meeting has a completely different reason. I didn't want to wait that long and called her the same day. She knew nothing of any misconduct towards her, I had not been intrusive and she had never complained about me. Very relieved, I told my boss that it was done. I had spoken to her and there must have been a misunderstanding. He then snapped at me that I had disobeyed his order. It had been agreed that I should only address her at the meeting. He almost shouted and was furious. I had thwarted his plans and, by the way, the previous boss had also had problems with me because I had disobeyed orders. The latter is not true at all. And now I no longer understand the world. It seems that there was no conflict at all. The only thing I disregarded was the timing. I wanted to clarify it immediately, although it was agreed otherwise. I have to be allowed to defend and protect myself. Why is he doing this to me? I am currently doing the work for two colleagues who are ill. All he can think of is: “You don't always have to take everything on yourself, let others do something.”


It was also nonsensical because it was something that I have to do as a substitute for the sick colleague. But why am I constantly being accused of misconduct when I have not done anything wrong. It does not do him any good.

I am so exhausted and at the end of my tether.




]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100523-constant-accusations-by-direct-superior https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100444-new-job-your-assessment Sun, 22 Dec 2024 12:11:26 GMT

New job your assessment

Hello everyone,

I'm brand new here in the forum 41j and m.

I struggle with myself all the time and now I've finally got over it, I can write it down here because it weighs on me and I haven't talked about it in detail with those around me either. It just takes a lot of effort for me to burden someone with it.

I would like to get an assessment of my situation first, because it is often seen quite differently by those affected and by outsiders.

The following situations:

After 17 years of successfully and happily doing the same job (before that I worked in a different department for a few years, but always for the same company), at some point I thought I just wanted to do something new after such a long time. So I decided to change jobs internally on my own initiative. (The new job pays better and is more demanding, and I have the qualifications for it). However, it is completely different from previous job, so to speak, I'm changing careers and have to start from scratch, which I also communicated at the interview. The boss said he was restructuring the areas of responsibility so that my co-worker would get a new, similar, somewhat more demanding task and I would get his minimally easier area. In addition, he (the co-worker) is supposed to move his workplace and I will be put in his place... I had nothing to do with the decision, but it makes more sense for logistical reasons.

I have to admit that a bit of favouritism was involved, which may have had an impact.

I started in this department at the end of October:

First day: brief introduction from the boss, setting up the PC, getting software access, etc. The person training me was supposed to help me with this, but he was very busy. I was understanding about this and had to take care of most things myself. My first day at work was unprepared by him. The boss came over and told him to show me everything. When I asked him what exactly, etc., Then the boss said please start from scratch. You could tell from his expression that he didn't like that at all. Just to clarify: I'm a career changer

Then everything takes its course: he shows me something once (sometimes complex, elaborate things). Then he says something like, ‘You can do that now, next time you do it yourself.’ (I often can't even keep up with writing it down.) When I ask him to please , he just gives me annoyed looks and breathes loudly. If I ask him the same thing a second time, I almost have to persuade him to show me again. But he's always unfriendly about it.

If I get stuck somewhere, I'm just told that we've already done this and you can do it. Unfortunately, that's of no use to me. Sometimes I can ask other colleagues who explain it to me calmly and I understand it afterwards. Unfortunately, that's not always possible because he is actually responsible for me and because I get certain information from him since I am assigned to his area. (The others have been with the company for many years, but he hasn't).

He also unsettles me by asking me when I want to solve something independently, with what are you doing, why are you doing that, what did I tell you how to do it? You could have done this and that in the meantime.

And he sometimes talks to me like I'm a child, and of course others notice that too.

Nobody says anything, though.

He criticises: ‘It's so difficult with you, I can't explain everything to you a thousand times (he does it a maximum of 2 times).

It's a lot of work for him at the moment, but he still finds time to play on his phone for half an hour.

The boss is currently on holiday for a long time and before that on a business trip, so I don't have an official point of contact either. There is a substitute, but she doesn't interfere. I get along with everyone, I'm basically a guy who has to get along with, I'm always friendly and helpful.

Unfortunately, it has now come to pass that I feel insecure and unfocused in his presence and therefore make mistakes, which he then, of course, proudly points out to me. ‘This must not happen, how many times have I shown you this now?’ Always in the sh..ton, etc.

I enjoyed going to work in the years before and often looked forward to it because I had great colleagues and a great boss.

Unfortunately, the opposite is the case.

And now it's unfortunately also the case that I can't switch on anymore because it bothers me too much.

I haven't been able to go to the boss yet and I don't want to because I'm being careful so that it doesn't escalate.

Talking to him in the same way is also unlikely to go well, because his tense nature and his mood towards me would not allow a reasonable conversation.

He is always nice and funny with his colleagues (he also has to ask them something).

I just want to know how you assess the situation and which strategies make sense.

I have already gone through all the possibilities in my mind, but I actually want to stay because I have always been fine there and I used to get nothing but praise and recognition.

PS: I think the boss will be informed about my absence through official channels, but I don't know for sure.

Maybe one of you has had similar experiences, any information would really help me.

But I haven't sought help yet, because my strategy was to sit it out and hope that I would finally be able to work independently. And then finally to get away from him, because I would then have to move. At the moment he has his eye on me.

]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100444-new-job-your-assessment https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100405-anonymous-denunciation-on-the-internet-and-its-consequences Mon, 25 Nov 2024 11:24:04 GMT Anonymous Denunciation

The relatively extensive meaning of the term denunciation is limited in the following article to anonymous denunciation on the internet.



The brave new world of the internet was initially greeted enthusiastically. But, as in the Bible, the snake soon appeared and later Cain and the other evil fellows.


The possibility of anonymously pointing out political grievances or uncovering irregularities in companies (whistleblowers) created an almost dreamlike platform for ‘do-gooders’. But as soon as criminal activities were revealed, the backlash from the ‘bad guys’ followed. Perhaps the bad guys were also using the anonymity of the internet before the good guys, but that doesn't really matter anymore. The fact is that the internet has become a playground for anonymous informers, stalkers, tricksters and sociopaths.


Anonymous publications from the internet as evidence for authorities


Anyone can anonymously publish anything on the internet. It is already common knowledge that foreign forums and servers in particular evade German jurisdiction. Even in social networks, a relatively large amount can be written against others without the person concerned being able to defend themselves.


Denunciation can be seen as a national sport. It is well known that certain authorities are overwhelmed with anonymous denunciations.

The authorities are completely overwhelmed by the anonymous denunciations on the internet. Officials are therefore extremely reluctant to respond to people who present any anonymous publications from the internet against a neighbour, acquaintance or adversary and believe that they are creating evidence.


Indirectly, of course, they do create evidence, albeit counter-productively: anyone who spreads anonymous insults or defamations can even be punished for it if it constitutes the offence of insult , defamation or slander . If the persons concerned are already deceased, - defamation of the dead applies. Since about 5% of users have died since the introduction of the internet, and since there is also agitation against these persons, violations will increase significantly.

Anyone who passes on a scathing pamphlet or defamatory texts about another person, either orally or in writing, can very quickly be held criminally liable. If they present it to the authorities, this can also be problematic, because many officials now react ‘allergically’ to this ‘evidence’ that may have been produced by the applicant themselves.

After all, anonymous means anyone could have done it.

Police officers and courts do not like private intrigues and counter-intrigues. It is no secret that informers and schemers are sorted into special drawers at the authorities. Once you are labelled as a ‘public nuisance’, it is very difficult to get out of that label. Sometimes public nuisances are referred to the possibility of a ‘private lawsuit’ and get involved in expensive civil proceedings, which result in nothing but hefty court, expert and attorney fees.

An anonymous text from the Internet is also not suitable for harming a litigation opponent in court. The person attacked can very quickly turn the tables and construct a defamation or insult out of it. It will then be very difficult to talk your way out of court and shift the blame to the anonymous writer as the author and the true person responsible. By their very nature, courts only ‘hang’ those they actually catch.

Private consequences of anonymous denunciation on the internet


In the forum against bullying, people complain daily about anonymous attacks, denunciation and defamatory texts on the internet. The number of intrigues and bullying cases, especially in ‘social networks’ such as Facebook, is developing more and more into a social avalanche that drags innocent people to their doom. What causes people to publicly let their pants down and post compromising photos and films on the net? Anyone who presents themselves publicly can also be publicly attacked.

Why many young people still collect the ‘internet brand’ or even expose themselves to a ‘shit stream’ by disclosing all kinds of personal data is difficult for an intelligent person to understand and can at best be excused as ignorance.

It is obsolete to raise a warning finger, because the rule is: it's your own fault for going on the internet!


If you are the victim yourself...

If we see our good name defiled by an anonymous scribbler on the internet, then we should ask ourselves what kind of medium this internet actually is. What options are there to defend ourselves against it? A lot has already been written on this website: cyberbullying, cyberbullying currently, anti-bullying, shame pages, dirty bullying.


If the publication was made in another country or is hosted on a foreign server, the legal options are practically non-existent. If anyone has different information on this, corresponding information by email ( Admin@Mobbing.net) or in the forum against bullying is welcome.

Until then, we note: There is not much that can be done directly against these anonymous denunciations and defamations on the internet.


The website Mobbing.net has been around for 15 years (balance sheet Mobbing.net ) and we have seen several blatant cases of cyberbullying and anonymous denunciations on the internet. Some cases were tragic, with severe nervous disorders, legal and financial problems, arguments with friends and acquaintances, and even divorces in long-term marriages.


So once again it is the weak and sensitive who are affected. Anonymous denunciations and cyberbullying are already making as many people ill as bullying in the workplace!

Perhaps in a few years, when you log on to the internet, similar messages will appear as we already find on cigarette packs:

The internet is damaging your health!

_______


The bullies and informers get their money's worth – or so it seems!

On closer analysis, it turns out that the attacks really hit home mainly with people who were already fragile, sensitive, hyper-nervous or otherwise damaged.


Those who were naturally robust and psychologically stable were able to shrug off the ‘shit’ from the internet and often even successfully counterattack.

The effects of anonymous negative reporting and defamation on the internet on sensitive people have also been reported in detail elsewhere. Based on our research, however, we conclude that this is only half the truth.


Almost everyone is initially outraged by the lies or half-truths that are spread about them on the internet. But while the sensitive person bows their head and reacts with depression or fear, the fighter becomes angry and aggressive. They will even think of strategies to fight back against these insults.


There are other groups, such as those who react indifferently, callously or even bluntly. For these people, cyberbullying will have relatively little effect.

All in all, there are quite a few people who cannot be permanently bullied, stressed and stalked.


When an athlete got fed up with being constantly stalked, she publicly named her stalker. In our view, this is a typical and completely appropriate reaction for a fighter. There are even more examples of moral courage, courageous action, ineffective denunciations and unmasked internet stalkers.

Examples of cyberbullying

and anonymous denunciations

edited by the authors against bullying


and the team against bullying

‘It was in the newspaper’ is not the same as ‘it was on the internet’.

Would such a report be in the newspaper?

Dog is attacked by a mower in love.


Hardly, unless it is under: satire, complete nonsense or other superfluous writing.

On the internet, however, the story is presented as if it had actually happened.

Dog is attacked by...


The original text can be found in the admin's post on Mobbing.net, which explains to readers why such a crude story was published in the bullying forum:

Admin

Dog is attacked by a mower in love.


This is, of course, complete nonsense, but let's just follow this up and see where we find this story in a few months.


Why this opening story?


There have been a few posts in the last few days that have been the subject of heated discussion among the users of the forum.

The anti-bullying team does not want to patronise its users. That is why we also allow borderline and even completely absurd statements.

However, since we have a certain responsibility to those seeking advice on bullying, we make sure that the posts are filed in the right category and that a certain amount of pre-sorting is done with regard to quality.

Not so the internet. There, everything is accepted and the craziest madnesses are published. Only time will tell whether this is a good thing.

In any case, every hypochondriac can find the most unusual clinical pictures and drive their doctor crazy with ever new symptoms.

Those who love conspiracy theories will find everything, but really everything.

We see life through the rose-tinted glasses of lovers, and then, thanks to this article, we also find a love-struck lawnmower that has shaved a shocker spaniel.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Moderatorin https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100405-anonymous-denunciation-on-the-internet-and-its-consequences https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100330-an-angel-became-a-devil Sat, 28 Sep 2024 11:07:42 GMT yes, unfortunately that is in many people. They have no problem to finish others, to mob! Often without having any advantage. Just because they can! The publications, like here in the bullying forum ( Mobbing.net (http://Mobbing.net)) , help to defend themselves against it! yes, unfortunately that is in many people. They have no problem to finish others, to mob!

Often without having any advantage. Just because they can!

The publications, like here in the bullying forum ( Mobbing.net ) , help to defend themselves against it!
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Wagner https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100330-an-angel-became-a-devil https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100302-colleague-has-to-work-with-his-bully Wed, 11 Sep 2024 10:03:30 GMT
I work in a company and have been head of a department there for a year. I have been in this department for a total of 5 years, at first I was just an employee and as mentioned above I have been the manager for a year now.

A brief history:
When my predecessor was still in charge of the department, let's call him Kai, he had a colleague (Hans) on his back, as I and the others have noticed. I don't know if it was bullying or not, but Kai always spoke to him in an unfriendly and aggressive tone and criticized every little thing he did. Hans had no other problems with the other colleagues or with me. I didn't have any problems with Kai myself, but I didn't think his behavior towards the employee was right either. However, I didn't want to get involved and didn't do anything at first because it was none of my business.

Kai then moved to another department, which he also managed, and our line manager appointed me as the new manager. Kai trained me. I and Kai now have all the knowledge you need for the department, such as orders, bookings and much more.

When I'm absent, I've always asked Hans to be my deputy, as he knows the most about it from his training and I trust him and have a lot of confidence in him, unlike Kai. Hans also has to deputize for me as he is the only one who works full-time, the others in the department are part-time employees.

So far, the substitution has always worked well, but when I'm on vacation for 2 weeks or longer, things can go wrong, as Hans often has to turn to Kai in serious cases.
Kai is therefore the only contact person in the company, as he previously managed the department and trained me.

In the past, I've noticed that the two of them don't really get on and get into arguments at every joint undertaking, be it a company party, etc. The two of them also get into arguments outside of working hours. The two of them have also come into conflict outside working hours.
Anyway, I told Hans to contact Kai, because they don't have to get along, but they do have to work together. I also have some colleagues that I don't like, but I still have to talk to them.

Hans also gets all my emails, which he has to work through.
I've trained Hans as well as I can, but with some things someone often asks something that Hans then doesn't know what to do with, such as whether this or that can be sent, or whether the order can be brought forward, and so on.
It once happened that a colleague called me on vacation about a problem that needed to be solved. Hans had refused to work with Kai and the colleague now had the wrong data, I was then able to correct something with the laptop while on vacation.
I told Hans he didn't need to be afraid to ask Kai, but he always said that Hans only gave him stupid answers when he needed help and didn't actually get any real help. Most of the time Kai does it and solves the problem.
I've already spoken to Kai and he just said that Hans is exaggerating.

As I said, I don't want to get involved in their dispute, but hans is the only employee who can cover for me when I'm on vacation.
Do you have any advice?




]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100302-colleague-has-to-work-with-his-bully https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100189-bullying-because-of-language-difficulties-neighbourhood-bullying-because-of-language-translation-programs-help-against-bullying-because-of-language-problems Sat, 27 Jul 2024 12:21:08 GMT Bullying because of language difficulties, neighbourhood bullying because of language, translation programs help against bullying because of language problems

In principle, it doesn't matter whether you are an English person living in Germany, a German in France or an Italian in Portugal, you will always encounter people who try to cheat or bully you because of your lack of knowledge of the local language.
Disputes with neighbours are particularly problematic. Neighbours find out very quickly if you have problems with the local language. They also find out how they can use this to their own advantage with the authorities. Then suddenly an official appears at the door and announces an investigation into an alleged problem:

what you are doing here is all illegal!

You don't understand what it's all about, if only because of the language problems. You quickly have a case against you because you can't say anything back to the officer.
Then you look for a lawyer. But how do you find a lawyer who speaks your language?

Ultimately, you need a translator for the letters or complaints you receive.

What a local who speaks the language can do with a short answer, means an enormous effort for the foreigner.

Depending on the accusation, this means at least 10 times as much time and costs for lawyers and translators. Consequently, the linguistically disadvantaged often give up, even though they are in the right.
The problem is used by a certain group of people to gain financial advantages. They buy a house next to someone who doesn't speak the language and put them under pressure. In this way, properties or rights of way can be blackmailed because the advantage of language skills, national laws and local conditions can be mercilessly exploited.
If the same lousy behaviour were used against a deaf, mute or disabled person, there would be widespread outrage. But if someone can't speak the local language, then they should go back to where they came from.

Now the tide has partly turned. There are translation programmes available on the Internet that can be used to write appropriate responses. Police hearings can also be translated by telephone or video conference. This makes investigations much quicker and fairer.
Even if you don't speak the local language, you have the chance to defend yourself against false accusations. You can also take on longer trials, because ultimately the translation programmes help you to understand what is at stake. And, you can write sophisticated pleadings and put them into a form that will stand up in court.

I hope my neighbour reads these texts and understands that I'm no longer afraid of his accusations and lies.

Who has any tips on this problem?

How can I make my neighbour understand this text?
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Patrizia https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100189-bullying-because-of-language-difficulties-neighbourhood-bullying-because-of-language-translation-programs-help-against-bullying-because-of-language-problems https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100147-bullying-because-of-oral-hygiene-bad-breath-and-yellow-teeth Sun, 07 Jul 2024 09:38:35 GMT I've been working in a new position in a medium-sized company for a few weeks now. More and more often, I hear the staff talking about a colleague behind his back. They say things that I wouldn't have expected from some people. The topic is the colleague's oral hygiene. Bad breath and yellow teeth aren't particularly nice, especially when you're sitting opposite each other at your desks and have to work together all day. But what can you do about it? It's not pleasant for me either, of course, because I'm also sitting in the same room, but I think someone should tell him... Should you talk to the person concerned directly or take it to the boss? Do you have any ideas?
Thanks for your help in advance




]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100147-bullying-because-of-oral-hygiene-bad-breath-and-yellow-teeth https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/100059-is-this-bullying-what-can-i-do Thu, 30 May 2024 10:06:59 GMT
The situation at work is wearing me down and I'm wondering whether I'm being bullied by my boss. My boss is a loud character who likes to be the center of attention and be recognized. I did that at the beginning and actually admired him for a lot of things and his management. We got on really well together. Even back then, I noticed that he often “goes for one person” and gets rid of employees he doesn't like. Out of 9 occupied positions, only one has remained in the last 3 years, others have been sick for a long time or have been transferred/quit. In addition, he shouts loudly down the corridor, addresses certain people, searches all the rooms etc. and wants to have control over everything. Several people have already tried to report him to his superior, but he has a good position there. At some point about a year ago, I reached the point where I stopped coming to work (social area) with a fever or similar just to cover for staff and to please them. I have to say that I am still in training. Suddenly he changed drastically. It started with inciting my practice supervisor against me, saying that I was doing tasks wrong, which wasn't true, and gossiping about me with colleagues. After that, he started ignoring me more, not looking at me or talking to me. There were new lockers and everyone got one except me. He also complained to colleagues that my things were in the way. I once called in sick, which meant an appointment had to be canceled, and he printed out my email and passed it around the office with the words “you can see where the priorities lie”. “Hello” or “goodbye” have long since ceased to exist; when I arrive and greet him, he just looks at his watch. In one meeting, the subject was clothing, which was not a professional issue. He said “when I imagine XX (me) in high heels, I think of a clumsy farmer's wife on stilts”. That was the point for me where I sat on the toilet crying. A few months later, I call in sick and he laughs mockingly on the phone, doesn't wait and says “ok bye”. Since I was absent, he deliberately tried to incite a colleague against me, saying that her training course had to be canceled for the third time because of me and that it was my fault. Otherwise, he often comes into the group during work, stares into the room and slams the door again, which makes me feel very insecure. But also the “silence” and ignoring me by not looking at/speaking to me in meetings and always discussing all important information that goes directly to me with my colleague when I'm on break. In the team, he regularly mixes up the teams as soon as people get on well with each other and makes up gossip individually, so that colleagues sometimes shout at each other. I've now reached the point where I can't sleep at night before work, feel completely cold and empty inside when I'm there and start crying on the way back. I've somehow become the focus of attention and I'm wondering whether this is bullying or whether I'm too sensitive? I'm at my wits end and just the thought of having to go there makes me feel so incredibly uncomfortable. It's all about “getting through the time” and when the week is over I usually need the whole weekend to regain my perception and feelings because I feel so empty.

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In the calendar year 2019, I; female and currently ... years old, suddenly found myself in a relationship with a narcissist that lasted several months. As I had never had any contact with narcissistic people before, I did not initially realize how dangerous and psychologically stressful a partnership with such a person would be, who was persistently guided by a narcissistic disorder, bullied me, humiliated me, belittled me and inflicted psychological violence on me. The experiences I had to make during this relationship, which lasted around 6 months, unfortunately left a lasting impression on me and affected my self-confidence.

I was particularly disturbed by the permanent lack of empathy he demonstrated towards me and his glorified self-perception without any awareness of illness, which stylized him in his eyes as an almost infallible being including a utopian, inflated concept of self-perception. Who in this forum has had similar experiences and how did you deal with the situation and the after-effects on your psyche? Did you seek therapeutic help?

When we were getting to know each other, he was very attentive and courteous towards me and showered me with compliments about my appearance. At the beginning of our relationship, this quickly turned into pure selfishness. I became increasingly irritated by his endless monologues, which always focused on his outstanding professional achievements and his attractiveness. His exaggerated desire for admiration quickly became a disruptive factor in our relationship. If I didn't meet his expectations sufficiently in his eyes or if I didn't admire him for his qualities, he responded with derogatory remarks about me that degraded and belittled me. Excessive criticism of me and lectures soon dominated our time together, making me feel increasingly worthless. It was only when I came into contact with the topic of narcissism as part of a professional training course that I realized what a dangerous partnership I was in and finally decided to leave this relationship.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99946-how-dangerous-and-psychologically-stressful-can-a-partnership-be-several-months-in-a-relationship-with-a-narcissist https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99945-sexual-assault-in-the-form-of-ridicule Wed, 15 May 2024 09:59:31 GMT
I've noticed that people are 'ridiculously flirting' with people who look hermaphroditic, e.g. a woman wearing practical clothes ("men's clothes") and short hair. Or a man wears fetish clothes ("women's fashion") and long hair, then sometimes someone comes up and acts interested or makes suggestive gestures from a distance.

Personally, I've seen other women make fun of more masculine women in this way. I often think this should also be seen as sexual assault. This form of ridicule is very destructive when you're already in a bad position in life.

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My colleague and I have been working together for almost 4 years. We started on the same day. We have two positions as team assistants in a public authority. It wasn't particularly easy with her from the start because she's never really liked me and I've always had the impression that she's somehow jealous of me. But somehow we got along anyway because we have to work very closely together.




For some time now, things have taken a very unpleasant turn. My colleague's behavior has become increasingly uncooperative and very self-centered. But that's not all. Last week, I noticed in a few situations that she was trying to manipulate me and make me feel insecure. I'm familiar with this kind of behavior from another job. Now I'm afraid that the situation will get worse and I'll have to fear for my job because she's setting a trap for me and I'll fall for it.




Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to prevent manipulation attempts?


Translatorix . Interesting article, I have translated it into other languages, because bullying is international!



]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99859-colleague-behaves-in-an-uncooperative-manner-fear-of-a-bullying-situation https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99701-wegovy-doctor-treated-me-like-a-dog-who-has-experience-with-the-new-weight-loss-drug-wegovy-who-can-report-on-the-effects-how-do-doctors-behave-wegovy Thu, 08 Feb 2024 15:58:28 GMT First of all, I'm not thrilled with my family doctor. I wanted to be prescribed the new weight loss medication "Wegovy". He simply refused and treated me more or less like a dog! The health insurance doesn't seem to pay for the medication either. On the other hand, there are reports that Wegovy really is an alternative to the usual diets. If this is the case, then my doctor's behavior is really outrageous.
Who has experience with Wegovy. Who would like to be my personal guinea pig and tell me about their experiences? I assume that there are different regulations with the health insurance companies.
What are the effects and side effects?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Labratoire https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99701-wegovy-doctor-treated-me-like-a-dog-who-has-experience-with-the-new-weight-loss-drug-wegovy-who-can-report-on-the-effects-how-do-doctors-behave-wegovy https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99682-employee-is-being-bullied Thu, 01 Feb 2024 21:25:21 GMT Angelobue 30.01.2024, 17:22 Hello, I am the boss of 10 employees. During the employee appraisals, I was told that some of them are being bullied by just one employee. I would like to talk to this employee...but I am still undecided how to approach the issue. Does anyone have any ideas or experience? Angelobue

30.01.2024, 17:22
Hello, I am the boss of 10 employees. During the employee appraisals, I was told that some of them are being bullied by just one employee. I would like to talk to this employee...but I am still undecided how to approach the issue. Does anyone have any ideas or experience?
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Rollo https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99682-employee-is-being-bullied https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99600-visible-bullying-and-nobody-cares-enacted-laws-are-unimportant Thu, 21 Dec 2023 09:09:53 GMT
Dear forum,
I have suffered from complex post-traumatic stress disorder since childhood. My developmental trauma resulted from the war traumatization of my parents, who were both absent without treatment, internally shattered and chaotic as a result of the terrible war atrocities they experienced as children.
Unfortunately, my life is still characterized by fear and panic, despite many years of therapy.
In 2019, I finally dared to take the step of applying for a degree of disability. When I started working for an IT authority in Lower Saxony in 2021, I was overjoyed, but my happiness was short-lived. My line manager J**** had also entrusted me with tasks from his project manager to save his head. I was given tasks that I couldn't manage with my profession. I had to coordinate closely with the project manager and therefore had to work from 7 a.m. to 10 p.m., which is why I fell ill. The Working Hours Protection Act was violated several times and the duty of care was neglected, which nobody cares about, not even the court. After I came back from my illness, I was given a personnel appointment. I didn't know what it was about at all, I was only given the option of whether the representative body for severely disabled employees should be present. When I said yes, I was told that they didn't know what it was about, but that they wanted to part with me. During the interview, I faced various accusations, for example that I hadn't worked, only made mistakes and had jeopardized IT.N's reputation. I was blindsided because I had never been told before that they were not satisfied with my performance. Mr. *** also told me that I wasn't capable of putting my horsepower on the road. The blow stung and damaged me deeply. When I tried to respond to the accusations, Mr. **** suddenly started laughing and rolling his eyes to show me how stupid I was being. The HR manager, Ms. T****, then cut me off. After the interview, I had a breakdown and was unable to work for a year. I registered as unemployed on time and filed applications, criminal charges for libel and slander and notified the state social welfare office, but nobody cared, maybe because of the pandemic?
In 2023, I was finally ready to go back to work, but then my nightmare began again. My old employer IT.N forgot to deregister me, although they continued to receive the payslips in-house. So instead of the employment agency paying me, I received other benefits, which I didn't notice because I was ill. When the mistake became known, I collapsed again and have been living in fear and panic ever since.

In 2023, I was finally ready to go back to work, but then my nightmare began again. My old employer IT.N forgot to deregister me, although they continued to receive my payslips at home. So instead of the employment agency paying me, I received other benefits, which I didn't notice because I was ill. When the mistake became known, I collapsed again and have been living in fear and panic ever since.
Due to my illness, I was no longer able to open my mail, so a default judgment was issued. When my mail was opened by a notary, I explained my point of view and my experiences and violations of the law. All my certificates were sent to the judge, Ms. ****, but everything was dismissed. My concerns were not heard again. I tried to lodge an appeal myself within the deadline, but I'm not a lawyer. Judge **** reasoning discriminates against my illness. She claims that despite medical diagnoses and certificates, I couldn't prove why I didn't act immediately. She also gave the wrong date for her reasoning, yet everything is legally valid, despite my objections. Because of my appeal, I thought I was in an open case, while the bailiffs who had been appointed were determined to enforce the judgment. Arrest warrants were issued against me and although I submitted a sick note from the street ambulance, a garnishment was initiated at my employer's by postal delivery certificate.
Due to the retroactive deregistration, I no longer have health insurance. Since then, I have been living in fear, panic and an absolute state of threat, as I have already told you. I was unable to defend myself against the verbal violence I experienced from Mr. **** in 2021 because nobody cared and now it is the same again in 2023, I am suffering without anyone being affected.
I am held solely responsible and have to bear the consequences for the mistakes of others alone. I sleep very badly, I'm scared every day. The person who made me ill in 2021 is allowed to do it again with impunity in 2023. For me, it's assault, but what else can I say if nobody cares. Maybe it's normal for sick people to be over-emotional and considered worth less?
Thank you very much for your sympathy.
Kind regards]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99600-visible-bullying-and-nobody-cares-enacted-laws-are-unimportant https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99599-bullying Thu, 21 Dec 2023 09:06:18 GMT Already bullying or hypersensitive?

The title says it all.
I work with a small group of colleagues in a department in a larger company. For a while now, I've noticed some negative things, for example that organizational matters are discussed without me and I'm often left clueless. I don't know whether this is a coincidence or intentional. At meetings, the department sits together and only I sit at another table. Sometimes people go to the canteen together, but no one has ever asked me. They're normally friendly towards me, so there's no question of open rejection. But I'm sure they talk about me behind my back, that's the feeling. The head of department doesn't show it openly either, she mostly ignores me. I know that I was only hired a few years ago out of desperation because there were no other applications for the position, she didn't like me even then. I feel totally excluded, I realize that I'm being ignored because they probably think I have no idea, but how can I if nobody informs me? I haven't done anything wrong, on the contrary, I try really hard to please everyone. But I'm withdrawing more now because I don't want to show that it's bothering me, I often go home crying. It's not all in my head, is it?

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Questioner
Today, 15:52

Quote: "At meetings, the department sits together and only I sit at another table.

This is reminiscent of the state visits to Putin from the outbreak of the Ukraine war. The table was 12 m long and symbolized the great distance and the irreconcilable differences.

Keeping such an open symbol at a distance can be appealing. At least towards the person responsible for the group.
It becomes more difficult with the other points. Sensitivity could also play a role.

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The title says it all.
I work with a small group of colleagues in a department in a larger company. For a while now, I've noticed some negative things, for example that organizational matters are discussed without me and I'm often left clueless. I don't know whether this is a coincidence or intentional. At meetings, the department sits together and only I sit at another table. Sometimes people go to the canteen together, but no one has ever asked me. They're normally friendly towards me, so there's no question of open rejection. But I'm sure they talk about me behind my back, that's the feeling. The head of department doesn't show it openly either, she mostly ignores me. I know that I was only hired a few years ago out of desperation because there were no other applications for the position, she didn't like me even then. I feel totally excluded, I realize that I'm being ignored because they probably think I have no idea, but how can I if nobody informs me? I haven't done anything wrong, on the contrary, I try really hard to please everyone. But I'm withdrawing more now because I don't want to show that it's bothering me, I often go home crying. It's not all in my head, is it?

________________________________________ ________________________________________ _________

Questioner
Today, 15:52

Quote: "At meetings, the department sits together and only I sit at another table.

This is reminiscent of the state visits to Putin from the outbreak of the Ukraine war. The table was 12 m long and symbolized the great distance and the irreconcilable differences.

Keeping such an open symbol at a distance can be appealing. At least towards the person responsible for the group.
It becomes more difficult with the other points. Sensitivity could also play a role.


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Milkmaid
02.12.2023, 18:41

I don't know if this is the right column in the forum. But I'll give it a try...

The court has assigned me a public defender. I only found out when the trial was already over. He allegedly couldn't contact me.
I receive 10 emails a day and 25 text messages.
The court and the police had no problem reaching me. But my public defender allegedly couldn't.
I still don't know what he was actually doing.

Tricca
02.12.2023, 19:11
To get an idea, what kind of proceedings were involved?

Milkmaid
05.12.2023, 10:19
It was about an (alleged) assault. It was actually an accident. But of course there would have been more money to be made with assault.

Group pressure
Today, 11:57
And if they can't afford a defence lawyer, then they get a public defender. The accused breathes a sigh of relief and hopes for a decent trial. But, as we know, hope fades last!

]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99574-lawyer-leaves-me-hanging https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99569-is-this-bullying Mon, 04 Dec 2023 09:51:13 GMT
Good morning,

I have worked at my company for 3 years and have loved my job. It was always fun and I felt valued. That has changed drastically. A few months ago, a new employee was hired who I don't get along with.

At first, I didn't attach any importance to it. There are always people with whom you don't get on as well as with others. However, this person really took over the department. She immediately took on our superiors and also the other department heads. She is very well respected there. She behaves very differently towards me. If I say something, there is no answer. Information is withheld from me. I am often not greeted.

Before this person, I was responsible for the induction of 2 other colleagues. Both inductions were very successful. One of these colleagues is no longer with the company because she had to move for family reasons. This colleague was replaced by the "new one". As she took over the position of the colleague who had unfortunately left (i.e. my direct colleague), I assumed that I would also take over the induction here. This was changed and she was trained by another employee, who is based far away, via team meetings on the computer. So far so good. I was a little surprised. She didn't contact me with any questions either, even though we were sitting in the same office. I found that strange. In the end, I came to terms with it and remained as neutral as possible and continued to offer my help. Just because I don't like someone very much, I still behave appropriately. What I find bad is .....ing. To be clear, I can also work well with people I would never have anything to do with in my private life. She's not the first colleague I've disliked on a personal level.

This woman has managed to be very well regarded by our line manager, who is also our managing director. At the same time, my reputation in the company has plummeted. Other colleagues have also stopped saying hello to me. These are the ones who get on well with the "new girl". There was a situation with one of them: I was standing outside with another colleague, he joined me and I greeted him normally. This colleague completely ignored me and greeted the other colleague with a handshake. That kind of thing is hurtful.

Last week, a long-serving colleague was dismissed without notice. It was very sudden and unexpected. Okay, he was always a bit difficult and was often verbally out of line. For example, he wrote in the company chat that he wouldn't save the phone numbers of new colleagues until the probationary period was over. I thought that was very wrong, as the new colleagues also read this. But well, we always knew he could be like that. We didn't expect him to resign.

The new colleague knew about the dismissal because she gets on so well with the manager. She then also said that there would be further staff appraisals. I have my appraisal interview with the managing director and a colleague from the HR department next Tuesday. The managing director spoke to me briefly beforehand. It was mentioned that my way of communicating would give rise to criticism. I wonder how I'm supposed to communicate if I don't get any answers or am not even greeted. I would like to point out that I continue to greet all employees because that's the way it should be. I was also accused of having been sick before. I've had 13 sick days this year and am the person with the least absences. Only the "new girl" has fewer. It would be a shame if that were different.

Before the new one, there was only one bad day in the time I worked for the company. Now there are only bad days. Work is no longer fun. I have severe insomnia and am thinking about getting sleeping pills so that I can sleep through the night again. When I do sleep, I have nightmares about work. I'm worried about my current alcohol consumption. I don't like to eat. I work from home whenever I can. Quitting is out of the question for me, after all I have to earn money. But the way the "new girl" has announced further staff appraisals, I assume that the decision was taken away from me a long time ago. Before the new one was hired, there were two job advertisements. One was for the current position, the other (as yet unfilled) was for the head of department. The way things are done here, the way the new employee is involved in areas of management, I assume that sooner or later she will take over as head of department.

What has happened, in brief:-

Exclusion (when I ask if someone wants to go on a break, no one goes with me. If I come back, the others go on break)

Withholding information (when she gets new information, she shares it with another colleague, not with me)

No communication (I don't get any answers, sometimes I'm not greeted)

The staff meeting with unfounded accusations

Perhaps this all sounds trivial and unimportant. But the situation is really bothering me. Whoever reads this, thanks for hanging in there and have a nice day



]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99569-is-this-bullying https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99523-need-for-information-or-practiced-masochism-are-news-programs-dangerous-to-health-does-news-make-you-depressed Fri, 10 Nov 2023 10:32:46 GMT Being informed about current affairs is a must ! Really ? I watch the news with all the atrocities, wars, accidents, climate catastrophes, social injustice, etc., and then I measure my blood pressure.
Then I measure my blood pressure and realize that it has risen considerably. The news doesn't just put me in a bad mood, it's also poison for my circulation and my heart. I also realize that the news makes me anxious and depressed. I
I ask myself now, do I really need to inform myself about the daily news? Or is my health more important?
Somehow it borders on masochism when you do something that ruins your mood and raises your blood pressure!

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And again and again the same verbal brutality of our joke makers and professional babblers about lactose intolerance.

Lactose intolerance is a disease, not a joke !

In mild cases there is only stomach upset and flatulence. But, in severe cases, the person is deathly ill.

My suggestion : the jokers should sit down in a small room. Together with a person suffering from a moderately severe form of lactose intolerance.
Then the sick person takes half a liter of normal milk and a decent piece of soft cheese.
If the comedian still finds what follows funny after 2 - 3 hours, then he can continue to make jokes about lactose intolerance.

]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Lactoseintoleranz https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99373-bullying-by-comedians-how-many-times-do-i-have-to-listen-to-the-stupid-jokes-about-lactose-intolerance https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99364-is-this-bullying-or-what-is-it-and-what-can-i-do-when-i-don-t-really-want-to-do-anything Fri, 11 Aug 2023 10:27:44 GMT Hello,
sorry for the long text. But I thought I'd start from the beginning and describe a current situation in a bit more detail. Maybe it doesn't sound that bad, but the suffering has been there for a bit longer.
I am currently feeling very uncomfortable again with my employer, where I have been working since April 2019. So, I came there in April 2019 through a staffing agency and was taken on permanently in October 2020.

I was supposed to document the work instructions for an area there, some of which did not exist until then. In retrospect, the training did not go as expected. In addition, I was not really welcomed with open arms. At least that's how I felt. But in my creative way, I was able to familiarize myself quite well. Last year, I was supposed to get support because I had way too much work for one person. To be honest, I was not very enthusiastic about the idea. I was not very enthusiastic about the idea, because when I started to work I assumed that I would be doing this job alone. I have worked out a complex system of work and find it difficult to train someone in this complex tangle that has grown historically. The first person hired turned out to be a loser and was fired after 3 months. On the 2nd attempt, a young employee was brought in from another team. She is a career changer and comes from a completely different area. That was almost a year ago. There were many misunderstandings because my supervisor communicated unclearly. But even so, there was a bad atmosphere between the colleague and me at the beginning. Since the beginning of the year, we have been sitting together in one office. The supervisor's assistant also sits in the room. From February until around Easter, I changed my orientation strategy and worked very intensively with the new colleague. Things went well then. But when I came back from Easter vacation, it became more difficult again. Unfortunately, I was absent for 6 weeks in mid-May due to an accident at work.

When I came back from the 6 week absence the situation actually didn't get worse. But I had a tantrum in front of my supervisor who praised my new colleague for banalities and criticized my work with a funny comment. He, or rather a colleague, had found an error in my work instructions, which in reality was not one after all on closer inspection. Last week, there was a joint breakfast with my supervisor, the assistant and the new colleague. Before this breakfast, my new colleague said that I had an idea how we could solve a problem she had. She said that we had already discussed it yesterday in the meeting and that it wouldn't work that way. But she said that in such a condescending way that I immediately lost it and said, "Then I won't say anything next time." She said that she had spoken to me normally and that I didn't need to react like that and that we were a team. "We are a team?" I asked. "But I don't notice anything about that. And you haven't asked me anything for some time now." Then, when breakfast was over and my supervisor had already left breakfast, the three of us went to the coffee kitchen to make some tea. And whispered the new colleague with the assistant. And I'm pretty sure they were whispering about me. There are many situations like that. Maybe I overreacted. But it's been a few days now and I don't feel like going to work at all. The two colleagues have conspired against me. I would love to quit. I already wrote an application the other day, but unfortunately received a rejection. I am at the end of my tether and can't go on. I don't feel like doing anything anymore and I don't want to talk to anyone. I will work from the home office for the next few days and hope that I can calm down to some extent. Am I overreacting?

Or what can I do here?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99364-is-this-bullying-or-what-is-it-and-what-can-i-do-when-i-don-t-really-want-to-do-anything https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99142-private-photos-and-film-recordings-as-evidence-admitted-in-court Fri, 12 May 2023 07:41:44 GMT

Especially in the case of a neighbor dispute, many people are tempted to record a neighbor's misbehavior. But is a person allowed to do that so easily? With modern technology, it is now easy to make video recordings anytime and anywhere. Especially when a person believes that he or she is being wronged, this can be helpful. However, not all recordings from cell phone cameras or surveillance cameras are admissible in court.

In many cases, neighbors explain that the filmed person's actions were so provocative that they had no choice but to film the acts. Their purpose is to document criminal behavior. According to the court, this evidence is not admissible and should be omitted. It is against the right of personality to film other people without their consent. However, it also depends on the individual case. The interests of both sides must be considered in such cases.

Was the video made in the privacy of the other person? If, for example, videos were secretly made in the living room of the neighbor, privacy must be protected in this case. Therefore, the videos are not legally valid. If a video recording was made at a festival in the city, this can look different again. As a rule, however, neighbors should first point out if they feel disturbed by an action of the opposite.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Foppdidi https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99142-private-photos-and-film-recordings-as-evidence-admitted-in-court https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99111-bullying-with-technical-aids Mon, 08 May 2023 01:10:35 GMT
Cyberbullying can have a significant impact on its victims, leading to feelings of isolation, anxiety, depression, and even suicide in some cases. It can also have long-lasting consequences, such as damage to a person's reputation or future job prospects.

It is important to recognize the signs of cyberbullying and take appropriate steps to address it. This may include blocking the bully on social media or messaging apps, reporting the behavior to the appropriate authorities, and seeking support from trusted friends, family members, or mental health professionals.

Parents and educators can also play an important role in preventing cyberbullying by educating children and teens about online safety and responsible digital citizenship. This includes setting clear rules and expectations around online behavior, monitoring children's online activities, and encouraging open communication about any concerns or issues that arise.

In summary, bullying with technical aids or cyberbullying is a serious issue that requires a proactive approach to address. By staying informed, taking appropriate action, and promoting responsible digital citizenship, we can help prevent and mitigate the negative impact of cyberbullying.
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Soliman https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99111-bullying-with-technical-aids https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99105-video-evidence-common-in-football-but-questionable-in-bullying-and-neighborhood-disputes Mon, 08 May 2023 00:55:55 GMT Video evidence, common in football but questionable in bullying and neighborhood disputes Anyone who falls victim to bullying would like to gather evidence to take legal action against the perpetrator. Bullying is unfortunately common in the workplace, but can also occur at home by neighbors. Would like to create evidence with which the bullying can be clearly proven. It is often recommended to keep a bullying diary in which the individual events are documented as precisely as possible with time and place. However, if only the diary is kept, this is of course always a subjective account, which can easily be denied by the mobber. Today, modern electronics offer a variety of ways to obtain evidence. Video recordings, for example,... Video evidence, common in football but questionable in bullying and neighborhood disputes



Anyone who falls victim to bullying would like to gather evidence to take legal action against the perpetrator. Bullying is unfortunately common in the workplace, but can also occur at home by neighbors. Would like to create evidence with which the bullying can be clearly proven. It is often recommended to keep a bullying diary in which the individual events are documented as precisely as possible with time and place. However, if only the diary is kept, this is of course always a subjective account, which can easily be denied by the mobber.

Today, modern electronics offer a variety of ways to obtain evidence. Video recordings, for example, can provide excellent evidence and can be easily captured today with video recorders or with surveillance cameras. However, the use of such means to obtain evidence is often dubious and not accepted in court.

Two different situations should be distinguished. One case is bullying suffered in one's own home, for example, by a neighbor. In such cases, one can use a video camera in most cases legally harmless to film a situation. However, in public places or even in the workplace, the situation is much more complicated. There, the bullies are also legally protected and may not be filmed without their consent. In court, you can therefore often create problems for yourself as a mobbing victim, because you have also broken the law by making unauthorized recordings. In general, it is therefore recommended to consult a lawyer and find out how to compile video evidence that will carry weight in court and be recognized as evidence.


]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Soliman https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99105-video-evidence-common-in-football-but-questionable-in-bullying-and-neighborhood-disputes https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99033-bullying-has-many-faces-and-takes-place-wherever-people-meet Wed, 05 Apr 2023 19:21:47 GMT
Unfortunately, there are always people who do not need a reason to make life difficult for others. A report to the police often does not bring much, because they only intervene if there is a real violation of the law or it has even come to physical violence. In order to have proof, film or sound recordings are often used. However, not all recordings are legally admissible evidence. Film recordings made on one's own property during a neighbor dispute are always considered legitimate and can be used in court. The situation is different, however, with recordings on someone else's property or in public buildings; this private evidence is not valid in court. In such a case, one can even be sued due to disturbance of privacy or the right to one's own image. Therefore, as a victim of mobbing, you should always consult a lawyer or a detective agency. These can help with a private preservation of evidence and know exactly what is admitted in court.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Flipflop https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99033-bullying-has-many-faces-and-takes-place-wherever-people-meet https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99021-private-evidence-gathering-through-filming-with-surveillance-wildlife-and-private-cameras-can-be-a-legal-grey-area-and-poses-various-problems Tue, 28 Mar 2023 09:24:59 GMT Private evidence gathering through filming with surveillance, wildlife and private cameras can be a legal grey area and poses various problems.

On the one hand, filming in a neighbour dispute can serve to gather evidence for a possible trial. On the other hand, deliberately luring a neighbour into a "camera trap" and pretending to commit a crime by selective filming can be problematic and violate personal rights. Moreover, private filming can lead to the privacy of the person concerned being disturbed and to abuse of the personal image.

Technical tricks such as hiding cameras or filming without the consent of the person concerned can also have legal consequences. It is important to note that filming people without their consent is illegal in many countries and can lead to legal consequences.

Another issue is the manipulation of evidence through selective filming or adding sound effects to support a false statement. These practices are illegal and can have serious legal consequences.

It is also important to note that private photography and filming cannot always be admitted in court. Courts usually review the admissibility of evidence and may reject recordings that violate legal requirements or ethical standards.

However, there are situations in which private photographs and film recordings can serve as evidence admitted in court. For example, surveillance videos of shops or public places can help solve crimes.

In any case, all legal aspects should be carefully examined before using private evidence gathering by filming with cameras. It is advisable to seek advice from a lawyer to ensure that legal requirements and ethical standards are met.


]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Revenant https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/99021-private-evidence-gathering-through-filming-with-surveillance-wildlife-and-private-cameras-can-be-a-legal-grey-area-and-poses-various-problems https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98994-private-preservation-of-evidence-bullying-is-a-nagging-issue-but-one-that-should-not-be-underestimated Sun, 19 Mar 2023 09:03:31 GMT Topic "Private preservation of evidence


Bullying is a nagging issue, but one that should not be underestimated. There are different types of bullying, including verbal, psychological, physical and social bullying, among others. Psychological bullying, for example, involves isolating, ignoring, and ostracizing colleagues, making it a widespread issue in organizations.

How does psychological bullying occur?

There are many reasons why psychological bullying occurs. If it relates to the work environment, for example, it usually starts with negative behavior patterns and conflicts at the workplace. Causes can be an unclear distribution of roles, a bad working atmosphere or an unclear or bad leadership style of the superior(s). In the worst case, even several of the above-mentioned points occur.

What triggers psychological bullying in those affected?

Psychological bullying causes serious emotional and physical damage to the victims. Affected persons can feel misunderstood, excluded and left alone. This can then result in anger, feelings of guilt or self-doubt, which make everything even worse.

Furthermore, sleep disorders, headaches, cardiovascular problems and other health problems are also present, so that those affected only "go round in circles" with many different problems that are difficult to eliminate again.

But not only the emotional level is endangered by psychological bullying. Regardless of whether mobbing takes place in the private sphere or at work, those affected can also lose their jobs as a result.

Possibilities of private evidence in case of bullying

In the case of bullying in a company, there are some possible steps that could be taken in private evidence gathering.

First, evidence can be documented using video recordings, audio recordings, or with witness statements - for example, by colleagues. Whatever steps are taken, care must be taken to ensure that all conceivable legal requirements are met. You can seek advice from a lawyer, for example, who will then explain the options and how to proceed.
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Guernica https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98994-private-preservation-of-evidence-bullying-is-a-nagging-issue-but-one-that-should-not-be-underestimated https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98981-i-always-get-threatening-emails-claiming-that-i-am-looking-at-sites Sun, 12 Mar 2023 09:47:33 GMT I always get threatening emails claiming that I am looking at .... sites and that I was being watched (filmed). Well, my computer does not have a camera and .... is not my thing. Why are these obviously criminal blackmailers not stopped? I always get threatening emails claiming that I am looking at .... sites and that I was being watched (filmed). Well, my computer does not have a camera and .... is not my thing. Why are these obviously criminal blackmailers not stopped? bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Siri https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98981-i-always-get-threatening-emails-claiming-that-i-am-looking-at-sites https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98910-shooting-at-the-neighbour-s-house-what-should-i-do-about-this-very-specific-problem Wed, 15 Feb 2023 10:31:02 GMT The incident: a few months ago (October 2022, approx. 17.00) there was a shooting at my neighbour's house. To be more precise, about 9 shots were fired in quick succession from a semi-automatic pistol, probably 9mm calibre. Then I heard a passenger car driving away at high speed.
The neighbour lives about 150 m away. I was in the armed forces and can therefore roughly assess the weapon.
I then drove past the neighbour's house and saw him disappear behind the curtains. My wife called him, but only the answering machine was on.
I don't know my neighbour's circumstances, but there seem to be problems.


Sorry, the incident is not necessarily neighbour dispute now, but other incidents with the neighbour are "neighbour dispute". I therefore suspect a certain connection.

What should I do ? Report it to the police ? An investigation will undoubtedly end in nothing, as I did not see the shooter or the car. If it's about what I suspect, then the neighbour won't say who was shooting around either. A tricky thing.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Dibouk https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98910-shooting-at-the-neighbour-s-house-what-should-i-do-about-this-very-specific-problem https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98894-is-my-partner-trying-to-get-rid-of-me-through-bullying Tue, 14 Feb 2023 10:59:37 GMT I am new here on the forum and I have a question on my mind that has been going through my head for weeks. Does my partner want to get rid of me by bullying me? Briefly about my problem: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years now and until three months ago we got along great, but since then our relationship has cooled down quite a bit. At first I thought it could be fixed, but now I have my doubts. My boyfriend tries to beat me up every day. For example, he nags me about my appearance and tells me things like: Lose weight, you're getting fatter and fatter, and he uses every opportunity to show me how stupid I am in his eyes. The bad thing is that I'm already starting to feel self-doubt, which makes me feel self-conscious. I feel as if he wants to get rid of me. So my question is, is this bullying or is he just being mean? What would you do in my place?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Klarabella https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98894-is-my-partner-trying-to-get-rid-of-me-through-bullying https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98879-marriage-partnerships Fri, 03 Feb 2023 18:02:53 GMT
My husband was considered perfect in my family for a long time. He had a job, with which he earned above average, looked good and presented himself as a loving partner. Unfortunately, this outer facade had already developed deep cracks shortly after our wedding. He became an alcoholic and tended to be aggressive.

Whenever he drank too much, which was quite often, he wanted to have sex with me. Refusal led to punishment. This meant that he beat me when I was not willing to him. Eyes closed and through was not a sensible alternative, because also the following sex, was determined by brutality.

I tried to confide in our relatives, but they didn't want to know about it and said that I was just making it all up to get a lot of money in case of divorce. With the support of a good friend, I finally managed to get away from him. Without warning, I packed a bag with my essentials and moved out.

I am now trying to come to grips with the events of my terrible marriage with psychological support.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Holbein https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98879-marriage-partnerships https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98876-victims-of-workplace-bullying-wanted-for-articles Mon, 30 Jan 2023 11:45:20 GMT Victims of workplace bullying wanted for articles Dear members of the Mobbing-Forum My name is Moritz Müllender and I am a journalist for jetzt.de, the young magazine of the Süddeutsche Zeitung. I am currently working on an article about bullying at work and am still looking for people under 35 who have experienced bullying at work themselves and would like to help me draw attention to the issue and thus help to counteract bullying a little better in the future. Get in touch with me or in this thread. Best regards Moritz Müllender
Dear members of the Mobbing-Forum

My name is Moritz Müllender and I am a journalist for jetzt.de, the young magazine of the Süddeutsche Zeitung. I am currently working on an article about bullying at work and am still looking for people under 35 who have experienced bullying at work themselves and would like to help me draw attention to the issue and thus help to counteract bullying a little better in the future. Get in touch with me or in this thread.

Best regards

Moritz Müllender]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98876-victims-of-workplace-bullying-wanted-for-articles https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98866-bullying-blocking-the-job-search Sun, 29 Jan 2023 12:11:37 GMT bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98866-bullying-blocking-the-job-search https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98855-my-husband-bullies-our-common-daughter Tue, 24 Jan 2023 10:30:41 GMT My husband bullies our common daughter

Since my daughter is in puberty and admittedly has become very demanding, my husband mobs her permanently. I also get upset when our Jenny hangs on her smartphone all day and doesn't help around the house. But then my husband gets really loud and yells that she is wayward and that he wishes he never had her. It really hurts my heart. And even if Jenny doesn't make a face, it won't pass her by without a trace. Our little one - he is 6 - always starts to cry then. And somehow the situation also destroys our harmonious family. I also experience that my son says the same stupid things to Jenny as my husband. I can still talk to the little one and admonish him that he shouldn't do that. But as long as my husband does not change, it will probably not get better. When I talk to my husband, he insists on his point of view and whines about his hard job and that our Jenny is such a nuisance to him and that she is so lazy and good for nothing. I can totally understand his point of view and know that he didn't have it easy even in his parents' house. But I also want to give my daughter the opportunity to be a teenager and not have to be insulted like that. What do you guys think? Do teenagers really need such a harsh upbringing? Or should I listen to my gut feeling that this is not okay the way things are going with us right now?


]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Ingeborg https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98855-my-husband-bullies-our-common-daughter https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98842-my-husband-plays-with-my-fear-of-loss Sat, 21 Jan 2023 12:23:58 GMT
My psychologist said that he is bullying me.

And bullying is something really bad for me, because I still know it from my early youth.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Rigg https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98842-my-husband-plays-with-my-fear-of-loss https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98726-merry-christmas-a-happy-and-healthy-new-year-and-above-all-an-end-to-the-war-in-ukraine Mon, 26 Dec 2022 17:10:04 GMT Merry Christmas, a happy and healthy New Year and above all, an end to the war in Ukraine ! On a very personal note, I would like to wish the admin of the bullying forum a speedy recovery. This longcovid seems to be quite insidious and nasty disease. All the best and get well soon - your Boston legal Merry Christmas, a happy and healthy New Year and above all, an end to the war in Ukraine !

On a very personal note, I would like to wish the admin of the bullying forum a speedy recovery. This longcovid seems to be quite insidious and nasty disease. All the best and get well soon - your Boston legal




]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Boston legal https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98726-merry-christmas-a-happy-and-healthy-new-year-and-above-all-an-end-to-the-war-in-ukraine https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98720-quarrels-and-bullying-under-the-christmas-tree-sad-tradition-in-every-second-family-why Sun, 25 Dec 2022 18:08:28 GMT His wife had already enjoyed a few alcoholic drinks, says: yes knock him over. As nasty as it is !
Someone intervened and said: with the cheap gifts we don't need a tree either. A little girl, probably my niece, sitting invisibly under the table, began to sob. The tree became more and more crooked.
Finally, my father, a former teacher, shouted and the class, or rather family, stopped. The meal was taken almost in silence, the mood more icy and the alcohol level increased. Finally came the meaningful phrase: what I always wanted to say....
The dams finally broke. Age-old animosities were reheated and insults and insults hailed down. From the most subtle bullying to the dully brutal pick-up line, everything was included.
The grandpa of Hoppenstetts ( German television) conducted his march and the nuclear power plant for children ended in a mushroom cloud. It sucks and blows the (vacuum cleaner) Heinzelmann....
Television also made its contribution to the family tragedy.
But kids, it's Christmas ! My mother tried to appease. The Christmas tree, shaken, not stirred, suddenly lost a few of its balls. There was probably still a glass ball from the ancient good times. In any case, it burst audibly and gave the signal for another loud dispute. After the adults had talked and scolded each other hotly and furiously, silence returned. Other old stories made the rounds. Do you remember how grandpa drank almost a whole 1 bottle of brandy at Christmas ? Well, he had his 7o revolutions. Who was it ? The brandy or the grandpa ?
Why do so many Christmas family celebrations take place in this way ? Is there not enough war and injustice in the world ? Or is the family a reflection of these events ?
Despite everything - Merry Christmas and a healthy New Year, hopefully without war !]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Sphero https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98720-quarrels-and-bullying-under-the-christmas-tree-sad-tradition-in-every-second-family-why https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98710-lack-of-concentration-due-to-being-trapped-in-the-home-office Mon, 19 Dec 2022 10:26:26 GMT I did get the tip, for example, to take my drinks and breakfast with me to the office, so that I don't go into the kitchen except for the breakfast break. But I can't quite cope with that when, for example, the mail arrives in between or my mother-in-law calls to ask if I could carry her shopping bag upstairs. But I have resolved to work in a more structured way.
My friend, who feels the same way as I do, told me that I should go out into the fresh air during the obligatory breakfast break and do small chores around the house or garden. That's how she overcame her lack of concentration.

]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Karine https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98710-lack-of-concentration-due-to-being-trapped-in-the-home-office https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98554-this-person-drinks-a-lot-indiscretions-and-lies Tue, 25 Oct 2022 14:11:32 GMT bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Tannis https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98554-this-person-drinks-a-lot-indiscretions-and-lies https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98508-does-anyone-know-this-as-well-massive-insulting-and-bullying-of-strangers Fri, 14 Oct 2022 09:28:16 GMT Hello, I am new here in this forum...... Mobbing.net / bullying I have been experiencing massive insulting from strangers for a few years now, it makes me very angry and triggers my anxiety, and you can see the tension and fear and anger on my face,. I am intimidated by it, and these people who devalue and insult other people naturally feel bigger by it, and feel validated . I am very angry about it and reject these people, which somehow fuels the whole thing, and these people continue to do, and in their pack then reinforce each other, and connect, because such things connect people of course. I for me see , that completely different, because I find such a connection very disgusting, and with such people would like to have nothing to... Hello, I am new here in this forum...... Mobbing.net / bullying
I have been experiencing massive insulting from strangers for a few years now, it makes me very angry and triggers my anxiety, and you can see the tension and fear and anger on my face,.
I am intimidated by it, and these people who devalue and insult other people naturally feel bigger by it, and feel validated .
I am very angry about it and reject these people, which somehow fuels the whole thing, and these people continue to do, and in their pack then reinforce each other, and connect, because such things connect people of course.
I for me see , that completely different, because I find such a connection very disgusting, and with such people would like to have nothing to do.
But socially, this behavior is very normal and is also promoted, and no one wants to be a victim and then feel excluded if he or she opposes such people, because then these people are also out of the so-called community.
I would simply be interested if there are people here who also know and experience such things.
A good day to you all"


]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Josseline https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98508-does-anyone-know-this-as-well-massive-insulting-and-bullying-of-strangers https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98479-love-drama-during-the-heat-wave-is-the-climate-covid-and-the-ukraine-war-getting-us-down-will-climate-catastrophe-lead-to-human-catastrophe Sat, 08 Oct 2022 10:43:29 GMT
First of all, it is interesting that the topics are of high interest in three languages:

Partner problems on vacation - the heat waves of summer 2022 and their psychological impact on partnerships - the dybbuk strikes. Ironic view of a partner crisis


Problèmes de couple en vacances - les vagues de chaleur de l'été 2022 et leurs effets psychologiques sur les couples - le dibbouk frappe fort



Partner problems during vacations - the heat waves of summer 2022 and their psychological effects on partnerships - the dybbuk strikes Ironic view of a partnercrisis



I was very moved to read how the heat affects relationships. Does the climate catastrophe also lead to human catastrophes ? One reads about drought, floods, hurricanes etc.. That the heat has very direct effects on humans, one hardly reads. Not everyone can afford air conditioning. So, 25 degrees in the bedroom. What happens then ? Nights without sleep, tensions in partnerships, health problems.

Covid, another current problem. How many people has this disease ruined economically ? Problems with longcovid also burden a relatively large number of people.

Translated with www.DeepL..../Translator (free version)]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Boston legal https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98479-love-drama-during-the-heat-wave-is-the-climate-covid-and-the-ukraine-war-getting-us-down-will-climate-catastrophe-lead-to-human-catastrophe https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98453-my-girlfriend-doesn-t-want-to-go-to-school-anymore-where-can-i-find-help-for-my-schoolmate Mon, 26 Sep 2022 10:14:33 GMT
I am 14 years old, I still go to school and I hope to find here in the forum, help for my school friend who goes to the same class. My friend doesn't want to go to school anymore, which is not possible because of compulsory education and because of her parents, who in my opinion don't understand her or don't know how her daughter suffers. My friend is a "gray mouse" and therefore not very popular in the class. The other day, a mishap happened to her when we were all together in the school hostel. She had bad dreams at night and wet her bed, which was noticed immediately the next morning. From then on, she is the target of all the ridicule and scorn in the class every day. The bullying against her takes place quite openly and of course they also talk about her behind her back. Whenever she wants to join others, for example at recess, they turn away from her and giggle stupidly. Our teacher doesn't seem to notice any of this, which makes me wonder because the hostility also takes place below the classroom. What can I do to help my friend? Do you guys have an opinion on the subject?
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Fiona https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98453-my-girlfriend-doesn-t-want-to-go-to-school-anymore-where-can-i-find-help-for-my-schoolmate https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98426-bullying-or-paranoia-%C2%A0are-we-deceiving-ourselves-through-fears-and-delusions-of-persecution-is-this-really-bullying-%C2%A0 Mon, 19 Sep 2022 10:31:41 GMT I have read some posts and come to the conclusion that probably quite a few bullying problems are due to hypersensitivity, even imagination - negative fantasies. There are whispers behind my back ... But what is being whispered ? Is it really something negative ?
Colleagues bow their heads when I walk by. Yes, but maybe they do the same with other people. Because they don't want to have their mouths open.
Then there's the sabotage of work equipment, computers, etc.
I have a computer in a room that is locked off from me. Nevertheless, there are always problems. Especially printouts cause problems again and again. This is nobody's fault. Except perhaps the manufacturer.
What if the computer and the printer were in the same office? Who would I blame ? A colleague, of course, who always looks at me from the side.
Does that sound familiar?
It's not always bullying that looks like bullying! ]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, poly-tikker https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98426-bullying-or-paranoia-%C2%A0are-we-deceiving-ourselves-through-fears-and-delusions-of-persecution-is-this-really-bullying-%C2%A0 https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98410-%C2%A0my-boss-doesn-t-talk-to-me-anymore-is-that-bossing Tue, 13 Sep 2022 09:35:36 GMT Actually, I was very happy about my new employment. The job description seemed very versatile, the pay was good, and my previous experience was taken into account. In the beginning, everything was okay, too. My boss informed me daily about upcoming topics and involved me in current tasks. He was therefore actively interested in my performance and valued my work. However, this is gradually changing. Lately, I don't get to see him for days at a time, and if he has any additional work in addition to my day-to-day business, it is usually activities far below my requirements profile. Own creativity and own thinking is not (anymore) demanded from him. Quite the opposite, he even recently crossed out a report of mine and asked me to start all over again without checking the results in more detail. I would learn from mistakes, but simply questioning everything disrespectfully shocked me and I didn't know how to react to him at that moment. Unfortunately, I agreed very meekly to rewrite the report.

Now I wonder if this is already bullying? This kind of thing is piling up. Unfortunately, I don't really dare to talk to anyone about it. My boss is very popular with my colleagues and I'm worried that they won't believe me that he treats me like this. I'm even afraid that if I openly communicate, my situation will get worse and it will be interpreted negatively to me ("the new one", "the emotional one"). This is really stressing me out. What should I do?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Shrek https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98410-%C2%A0my-boss-doesn-t-talk-to-me-anymore-is-that-bossing https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98391-i-don-t-know-if-this-is-bullying-people-are-whispering-behind-my-back Mon, 12 Sep 2022 09:00:08 GMT I am new here in the forum because I am not quite sure if I am being bullied by my colleagues at my workplace. For a few weeks now, I have noticed that whenever I enter a room, my colleagues suddenly stop talking, turn around and then leave the room one by one. For example, when I go into the smoking room to smoke. In the canteen, everyone sits down so that the tables are already occupied and if I manage to get a seat before the others, no one else sits down with me. I have no explanation for this behaviour and just a few weeks ago I was relatively popular. At least my colleagues haven't behaved like this yet. What should I do? Should I confront my colleagues directly with my suspicions. I don't really dare because I always think that I'm imagining things. What do you think? Can you help me, because I can't stand this state of mind for much longer, but I don't want to quit.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, swineyard https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98391-i-don-t-know-if-this-is-bullying-people-are-whispering-behind-my-back https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98276-hello-i-am-not-sure-if-my-case-is-actually-bullying-so-i-hope-that-as-many-as-possible-answer-me Thu, 11 Aug 2022 09:36:27 GMT
Hello, I am not sure if my case is actually bullying, so I hope that as many as possible answer me,

who have had the same or similar experience as me. Even as a child I was always a bit fatter than the other girls and you can imagine that I was always teased at school because of that. Actually, I thought that this would stop in the "adult world", when I start working. But according to my feeling, I am now also bullied at work. I am in the first year of my apprenticeship and I work in a butcher's shop and there is a colleague who constantly makes disparaging remarks about my figure, often in the presence of other colleagues and sometimes even customers. I find these remarks very insulting and I have already spoken to her about it, but she only said that this was just a joke and that I should not make such a fuss. After all, apprenticeships are not men's years and every apprentice eventually gets taken for a ride by his colleagues. I don't know what to make of this. Is this really bullying or do I have to put up with these "jokes"? What would you do in my situation?
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Landes https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98276-hello-i-am-not-sure-if-my-case-is-actually-bullying-so-i-hope-that-as-many-as-possible-answer-me https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98270-horror-holiday-2022-partner-problems-on-holiday-heat-waves-in-summer-and-their-psychological-effects-on-partnerships-the-dybbuk-strikes-ironic-view-of-a-partner-crisis Thu, 04 Aug 2022 19:22:34 GMT Ironic view of a partner crisis during the corona pandemic and the heat waves of summer 2022 The dybbuk strikes We start our vacation in a cheerful mood. On the last trip, blood had run out of my nose and I ended up in intensive care in a hospital in Tours. The Loire Valley was left as a valley of tears. But now it was, towards the sun, life is beautiful ! The sun did its best and it was already getting plenty warm, despite air conditioning in the vehicle. The second heat wave of this year was rolling in. Then came the destination, a double gîte on an organic farm near the sea. Organic always sounds good, although the term organic is not protected. Unfortunately, my partner had neglected to tell me that there was no real flush toilet,... Ironic view of a partner crisis during the corona pandemic and the heat waves of summer 2022

The dybbuk strikes

We start our vacation in a cheerful mood. On the last trip, blood had run out of my nose and I ended up in intensive care in a hospital in Tours. The Loire Valley was left as a valley of tears. But now it was, towards the sun, life is beautiful ! The sun did its best and it was already getting plenty warm, despite air conditioning in the vehicle. The second heat wave of this year was rolling in. Then came the destination, a double gîte on an organic farm near the sea. Organic always sounds good, although the term organic is not protected. Unfortunately, my partner had neglected to tell me that there was no real flush toilet, only a dry toilet. But, one accepts these small inconveniences gladly, if for it, quasi as a reward, a beautiful and inexpensive vacation waits. Well, it is warm, very warm, even in the evening. The journey was exhausting, it is hot and the room doors remain open. Warm is good, sultry is not. One dozes off in the balmy night and is surprised when suddenly, around midnight, a machine apparently starts up and disturbs the night's rest. No, the gîte was not located in an industrial area. It was the partner, who gave a perfect imitation of a device, combined from electric saw and percussion drill, from itself. And, I considered it a miracle at first, the sound suddenly stopped. Not only that, but the sound of breathing died away completely. Dead ? Choked on an invisible rag ? A dybbuk ? After two or three moments of shock, rattling resumption of breathing.

After a part of my dormant brain cells had abruptly activated, came the realization : sleep apnea. I confess, the phenomenon was theoretically known to me, but in this intensity it was surprising. It was still warm, I could not sleep and as entertainment program ran only the constantly repeating combination of snoring and apnea. After some time my scientific interest awoke and I estimated the intervals and the time span of the apnea. The problem was clearly in the pathological area. Sleep apnea can lead to strokes and heart attacks. In the more harmless variant of permanent oxygen undersupply of the brain, "only" fatigue is triggered the next day. The effect on the psyche is particularly insidious. The depression triggered by apnea blocks important activities. The disease virtually protects itself by preventing diagnosis and therapy through bad mood and listlessness.

The next morning now the big question for me, how do I tell my partner? It is a historical fact that the bearers of bad news lost their lives. I didn't necessarily expect that, but it would definitely create a bad mood. I gave the information anyway and met with mediocre interest, but at least the problem was registered.

Then the sun came out, the kids got cranky and off we went to a mill pond. The kids had an incredible time in the warm, yet refreshing water. The adults had their fun too. I sat in the shade and watched the lively goings-on. Yes, they do exist, the beautiful moments in life. On the way back, there was still an adventure park to see. All in all, a successful vacation day. And the thermometer continued to rise.

The heated partner sleeps in the next room, now with closed door, so quasi silenced rattle. For me, too, a successful end to the day, except for one piece of news that slowly and inexorably drilled into my consciousness: my mother, already 90 years old, was not well. She had been moved to another room in the nursing home because she was so restless that her roommate could not stand it and fled into the hallway during the night. Coincidence of the events ?

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The dybbuk]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Horror 2.0 https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98270-horror-holiday-2022-partner-problems-on-holiday-heat-waves-in-summer-and-their-psychological-effects-on-partnerships-the-dybbuk-strikes-ironic-view-of-a-partner-crisis https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98229-teasing-foreigners-great-fun-for-the-whole-family-but-now-no-more Fri, 29 Jul 2022 17:50:21 GMT Later one can still report to the environment of it. And strongly say the untruth. The foreigner stands there as a complete idiot. The own superiority is proven.

This has changed now, at least partially. There are translation programs, which come very close to good German, French or English etc.. Often one knows the mail addresses, Facebook, of the acquaintances etc. and can then at least defend oneself in writing.

I am often abroad in Europe and make use of this possibility for some time. It took some time for my acquaintances to realize that they can't just verbally lash out.
In critical discussions I retreat to "neutral territory", i.e. to a foreign language that is also a foreign language for the other person. This neutralizes very quickly the aggressiveness, because these people often know only one language.
Another possibility is to offer the discussion by messenger or mail. You then have the mail translated by a translation program, formulate the answer, which is then translated into the language of the other person. And that's the end of the speechlessness!
The counterpart then realizes very quickly that the apparently language-impaired foreigner is in reality his equal.
The possibility of translation programs can not completely prevent bullying of foreigners, but help to reduce the problems.

Sometimes modern technology is a blessing after all !

Translated with www.DeepL..../Translator (free version)]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Pascale H. https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98229-teasing-foreigners-great-fun-for-the-whole-family-but-now-no-more https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98189-my-neighbor-is-mentally-ill-and-transfers-his-problems-to-me-reports-to-authorities-etc Sat, 09 Jul 2022 15:20:45 GMT My neighbor's mental illness has now been confirmed to me by his acquaintance. Already earlier I had noticed that he did strange things and expressed strange thoughts. But only through a conversation with an acquaintance of his, I realized how bad it really is.
We live in such a way that again and again, due to an error in the navigation equipment, people arrive at our house in the yard, although they actually wanted to go to the neighbor's house. Every now and then we get into a conversation with these people. Some time ago, a middle-aged woman came into the courtyard, who actually wanted to go to our neighbor. It turned out that she told us that she has problems with him. We also have problems with him, so we shared our experiences on this common ground.
She shared with us that he has extreme mental health issues. Obviously, he suffers from great anxiety and then makes connections that are completely absurd. For example, he fears that there are any beings around him. He has a terrible fear and therefore wants to close the path behind his house.

I know the path and the corner at his house, which is probably scary at night, because there is also a small brook running by, which makes corresponding noises. However, I don't see any threatening figures, burglars or the like there.
The lady, who made a very intelligent impression and was multilingual, also told us that he has other massive psychological problems. However, she did not go into detail for reasons of discretion.

For me, however, it was important to have found someone who confirmed my neighbor's psychological problems.
Outsiders usually do not understand the problems one can have with mentally ill people. My neighbor projects his problems onto me. So he set up lots of cameras, but had me write a letter through his lawyer threatening me with 2 years in prison if I filmed him. He also assaulted my wife and then accused me of assaulting her. An impertinence that can hardly be surpassed!

Also purely externally he is conspicuous, although I do not want to go into too much detail here. But, I would like to say only so much, I have in my whole life never seen a person who looks as strange as he does.
Now my question, what should I do ? Should I tell the Politzei that he is mentally ill, or is that defamation ?

]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Law https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98189-my-neighbor-is-mentally-ill-and-transfers-his-problems-to-me-reports-to-authorities-etc https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98107-they-talk-about-me-behind-my-back-is-this-bullying Mon, 27 Jun 2022 09:54:16 GMT
Hello, I have been together with my boyfriend for about half a year. Therefore, I don't know him very well in terms of character yet and I suspect that I am being bullied by him or his friends. They are not all his friends, but only two specific ones from his circle of friends. When one of them or both of them are visiting us and I'm not standing right there during conversations, they whisper to my friend behind my back. And I'm not imagining it, because whenever I join in, the voices get quieter and quieter. When I then ask what it's about, they just say they were talking about work. Then when the friends have left, my friend is like changed and behaves downright vicious. Therefore, I suspect a connection with the whispering of the friends. Can you guys maybe help me out? What should I do and is this bullying?

]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Magent https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98107-they-talk-about-me-behind-my-back-is-this-bullying https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98055-%C2%A0-cyberbullying-bullying-happens-all-the-time-whether-at-work-at-school-among-friends-or-in-the-neighborhood Thu, 23 Jun 2022 20:14:50 GMT
Dear readers,

Bullying happens again and again. Whether at work, at school, among friends or in the neighborhood. With the advent of digital media and social networks, the large area of "Internet" is now added to the list. As a special form of bullying, harassment on the Internet is dubbed "cyberbullying." Approximately every 10th young person has already come into contact with this topic. Whether as a victim, observer or perpetrator. The perfidious thing about this form of bullying is that the children and young people hardly have a place of retreat where they can switch off. If "normal" bullying takes place at school, those affected can retreat within their own four walls at home. However, if they are persecuted and insulted on the Internet, it is difficult to gain distance from this situation, as the smartphone or computer is often on standby 24/7. With the next message in the class chat, the next insult arrives immediately. The children and young people often suffer silently and the embarrassing process remains undetected for a long time. Depending on their character, those affected withdraw further and further and try to cope with what has happened in their own unique way. It is precisely at this point that they need the help of contact persons such as parents, older siblings or other trusted persons to whom they can turn. Often, even small conversations or a helping hand can help to counteract the situation.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, IQ https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/98055-%C2%A0-cyberbullying-bullying-happens-all-the-time-whether-at-work-at-school-among-friends-or-in-the-neighborhood https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97989-my-boyfriend-treats-me-like-a-slave-is-this-bullying Wed, 08 Jun 2022 15:24:36 GMT Hello, I have a question for you guys. Does it count as bullying if I am treated badly by my boyfriend? I don't mean once in a while, but all the time. He constantly has something to complain about and everything I do is not good enough for him. He does work, but when he gets home he doesn't lift a finger and instead puts all the work on me, even though I'm working full time too. If something takes him too long, he yells at me again and often he even insults me with really bad swear words. I know that this is not normal, but I would be interested to know if what he is doing to me is possibly already bullying. My parents and my friends have already advised me to separate from this man, but I just can't do it. Sometimes I think to myself that I don't deserve it any other way or I blame myself. The problem is that I am attached to my relationship and I don't want to lose him. I just hope that he will change. Does anyone know any advice?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Jeanne https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97989-my-boyfriend-treats-me-like-a-slave-is-this-bullying https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97902-bullying-and-domestic-violence-how-do-i-recognise-it-and-what-can-i-do-about-it Mon, 23 May 2022 09:32:28 GMT Bullying and domestic violence: How do I recognise it and what can I do about it? Bullying and domestic violence are among the biggest problems people face today. Many of those affected do not even know what they can do about it. In this article we explain what bullying is and how you can recognise it. We also give tips on what you can do to protect yourself from bullying and domestic violence. Bullying is a form of psychological violence in which a person is systematically bullied by other people over a long period of time. Bullying can manifest itself in many different ways, for example through rumours, name-calling, threats or even physical violence. Often bullying is also a combination of different forms of violence. Domestic...
Bullying and domestic violence are among the biggest problems people face today. Many of those affected do not even know what they can do about it. In this article we explain what bullying is and how you can recognise it. We also give tips on what you can do to protect yourself from bullying and domestic violence.

Bullying is a form of psychological violence in which a person is systematically bullied by other people over a long period of time. Bullying can manifest itself in many different ways, for example through rumours, name-calling, threats or even physical violence. Often bullying is also a combination of different forms of violence.

Domestic violence is another form of psychological violence where one partner in a relationship systematically exerts control over the other over a long period of time. Domestic violence can manifest itself in many different forms, for example through threats, physical violence or even economic control. Here, too, a combination of different forms of violence can often be observed.

How do I recognise bullying and domestic violence?

Victims of bullying or domestic violence often feel alone, powerless and helpless. Often they do not know what to do or are afraid of escalating the situation. Bullying and domestic violence can affect anyone - regardless of age, gender or social status.

If you are in a violent relationship, you should seek help. Contact a counselling centre or the police. Do not stay alone in a violent relationship, but seek help!



]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Strange https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97902-bullying-and-domestic-violence-how-do-i-recognise-it-and-what-can-i-do-about-it https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97857-fatphobia-digital-bullying-on-platforms-with-photos Sun, 15 May 2022 10:02:01 GMT
The last time I was targeted in a fatphobic way was when I signed up as a teacher on an online platform. One person couldn't handle what I wanted as an hourly wage (which was actually way too little for the service). As a result, my photo was used to make fatphobic insults at me. This is nothing new for me. This is also one of the reasons why I rarely upload a photo of myself on the Internet. But for this platform the photo was needed. Otherwise I would not have been allowed to register there. The idea is actually that the customers can get a better picture of the teachers and thus more likely to decide to book a lesson. So far I have no bookings, but insults in the inbox of this platform. I have reported the posts and blocked the person. Nevertheless, the damage has already been done.

A person who does not respect my hourly rate has tried to degrade me further with insults. This will certainly give the person even more justification as to why my work would not be worth as much. I understand if a person cannot afford my lesson plan. There are teaching offers by other service providers for that. But what doesn't work is treating me like that. It is clear that this person does not respect me as a human being. Also my work as a teacher would not have been appreciated by this person. It's good that I don't have to teach this person. It wouldn't have fit. But still, I'm sitting here now and I'm hurt.

]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Curvy Model https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97857-fatphobia-digital-bullying-on-platforms-with-photos https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97854-feel-bullied-at-our-soccer-club Sat, 14 May 2022 20:02:26 GMT
It may sound ridiculous to many, but I feel bullied at our soccer club. Maybe it's because in my job as a tax consultant, I'm constantly in a suit and dressed like that I also show up for training. At the beginning I was allowed to listen to the particularly funny remarks from my teammates about whether I was going to a wedding or a funeral. I took this relatively calmly and, as time went by, isolated myself more and more from my teammates.

Another problem for my teammates is that I'm often late for practice because of my job, but on game day I'm always in the starting lineup as a striker. My coach is convinced of my finishing qualities and considers me indispensable for the team.

In the last few weeks and months, I've had to create every chance for myself in the match, because I don't get a single pass from my teammates. It doesn't matter if I'm alone in the penalty area or not. Excuse me, but that's not quite true. When I'm surrounded by several opponents, they pass me the ball. It has even happened that one did not pass to me, but in fact almost shot me down. Of course, this did not happen without commenting with the scornful words whether I could not stop a ball.

I have no idea how this should continue, because I love to play soccer. Should I continue to torture myself or stop altogether? What do you think?



]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Wurk https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97854-feel-bullied-at-our-soccer-club https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97838-open-letter-to-chancellor-olaf-scholz Sun, 08 May 2022 09:47:04 GMT OPEN LETTER TO CHANCELLOR OLAF SCHOLZ 28 intellectuals and artists write an Open Letter to Chancellor Scholz. They advocate his level-headedness and warn against a 3rd world war. The full letter here. Also the complete list of the first signatories. Sign here on change.org. 3. Mai 2022 Dear Chancellor, OPEN LETTER TO CHANCELLOR OLAF SCHOLZ

28 intellectuals and artists write an Open Letter to Chancellor Scholz. They advocate his level-headedness and warn against a 3rd world war. The full letter here. Also the complete list of the first signatories. Sign here on change.org.

3. Mai 2022



Dear Chancellor,

we welcome the fact that you had so far so carefully considered the risks: the risk of the war spreading within Ukraine; the risk of it spreading to the whole of Europe; indeed, the risk of a 3rd world war. We therefore hope that you will return to your original position and not supply, either directly or indirectly, further heavy weapons to Ukraine. On the contrary, we urge you to do everything you can to help bring about a ceasefire as soon as possible; a compromise that both sides can accept.

We share the judgment of the Russian aggression as a breach of the basic norm of international law. We also share the conviction that there is a principled political and moral duty not to retreat from aggressive force without a fight back. But anything that can be derived from this has limits in other precepts of political ethics.

We are convinced that two such boundary lines have now been reached: First, the categorical prohibition of accepting a manifest risk of escalation of this war into a nuclear conflict. The delivery of large quantities of heavy weapons, however, could make Germany itself a party to the war. And a Russian counterattack could thus then trigger the mutual assistance case under the NATO treaty and thus the immediate danger of a world war. The second borderline is the level of destruction and human suffering among the Ukrainian civilian population. Even justified resistance to an aggressor is at some point unbearably disproportionate to this.

We warn against a twofold error: Firstly, that the responsibility for the danger of an escalation to a nuclear conflict concerns only the original aggressor and not also those who, with their eyes open, provide him with a motive to act in a possibly criminal manner. And secondly, that the decision on the moral responsibility of the further "cost" in human lives among the Ukrainian civilian population falls exclusively within the competence of their government. Morally binding norms are universal in nature.

The escalating arms buildup taking place under pressure could be the beginning of a global arms spiral with catastrophic consequences, not least for global health and climate change. It is necessary, despite all differences, to strive for a global peace. The European approach of common diversity is a model for this.

We are convinced, Chancellor, that the head of Germany's government in particular can make a decisive contribution to a solution that will stand up in the eyes of history. Not only in view of our present (economic) power, but also in view of our historical responsibility - and in the hope of a common peaceful future.

We count on you!

Yours sincerely

FIRST SIGNATORIES

Andreas Dresen, Filmemacher
Lars Eidinger, Schauspieler
Dr. Svenja Flaßpöhler, Philosophin
Prof. Dr. Elisa Hoven, Strafrechtlerin
Alexander Kluge, Intellektueller
Heinz Mack, Bildhauer
Gisela Marx, Filmproduzentin
Prof. Dr. Reinhard Merkel, Strafrechtler und Rechtsphilosoph
Prof. Dr. Wolfgang Merkel, Politikwissenschaftler
Reinhard Mey, Musiker
Dieter Nuhr, Kabarettist
Gerhard Polt, Kabarettist
Helke Sander, Filmemacherin
HA Schult, Künstler
Alice Schwarzer, Journalistin
Robert Seethaler, Schriftsteller
Edgar Selge, Schauspieler
Antje Vollmer, Theologin und grüne Politikerin
Franziska Walser, Schauspielerin
Martin Walser, Schriftsteller
Prof. Dr. Peter Weibel, Kunst- und Medientheoretiker
Christoph, Karl und Michael Well, Musiker
Prof. Dr. Harald Welzer, Sozialpsychologe
Ranga Yogeshwar, Wissenschaftsjournalist
Juli Zeh, Schriftstellerin
Prof. Dr. Siegfried Zielinski, Medientheoretiker

https://www.emma.de/artikel/offener-...-scholz-339463

]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Weltkrieg https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97838-open-letter-to-chancellor-olaf-scholz https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97836-corona-pandemic-widened-the-gap-between-younger-and-older-people Sun, 08 May 2022 08:56:14 GMT Corona pandemic widened the gap between younger and older people I am sorry to say that since the beginning of the Corona pandemic, the gap between younger and older people, has widened significantly. After being held in a stranglehold by measures to limit the pandemic for more than two years, the effort to protect seniors from the virus is turning into sheer hatred. I have to experience it regrettably also with my grandmother, who is already an aged woman. During quarrels in the neighborhood, she was often confronted with the words that because of her, one should restrict oneself so much and not be allowed to lead a normal life. If only the old had been put away and the young had not been deprived of their lives. Needless to say, my... Corona pandemic widened the gap between younger and older people

I am sorry to say that since the beginning of the Corona pandemic, the gap between younger and older people, has widened significantly. After being held in a stranglehold by measures to limit the pandemic for more than two years, the effort to protect seniors from the virus is turning into sheer hatred. I have to experience it regrettably also with my grandmother, who is already an aged woman. During quarrels in the neighborhood, she was often confronted with the words that because of her, one should restrict oneself so much and not be allowed to lead a normal life. If only the old had been put away and the young had not been deprived of their lives.

Needless to say, my beloved grandmother often burst into tears afterwards. Does anyone think that it is a beautiful time for you? When you are at a blessed age and can hardly see your own children and grandchildren, for fear of infection? How terrible for them already the thought of falling ill with a severe corona course and perhaps having to be hospitalized to die there, without ever again seeing a face, but only doctors in their protective suits?

No, today's times are not easy for our seniors and I cannot understand the hatred of many of my fellow human beings. It was not our grandparents who brought the virus into circulation. They, just like us, wanted to continue their normal, modest lives.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Trans https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97836-corona-pandemic-widened-the-gap-between-younger-and-older-people https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97831-cn-transphobia-ableism Sat, 07 May 2022 09:46:08 GMT
I can't talk about being trans with those around me. That's why I try to find people on the internet with whom I can network. That works quite well to some extent. Through social media I get the opportunity to talk to other trans people, to talk about problems and to enjoy ourselves together. To get these contacts, I created an anonymous account, i.e. under a different name, on social media platforms and wrote unique terms in the bio, which makes me directly recognisable as a trans person.

Now for my problem: the more popular my account becomes, the more trans-hostile people find my account. I see with friends that the bullying on the internet can become quite blatant. I also notice it with myself. People who have no idea about the topic want to tell me that I am "sick". Some of my mutuals (mutual followers) receive threats and calls for violence.

I know about tools like "hate reporting", reporting posts to the social media platform and reporting extreme posts to the police. I will not let trans-hostile people forbid me to continue writing about my experiences and to exchange with other trans people on the internet.

Nevertheless, it hurts. We are not listened to enough. We are too rarely taken seriously. Being trans doesn't make me sick. But this trans hostility makes me sick.


]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Trans https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97831-cn-transphobia-ableism https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97817-allegedly-having-sex-with-boss-and-all-colleagues-shunning-me Tue, 03 May 2022 10:03:43 GMT Allegedly having sex with boss and all colleagues shunning me ! I have been working for about half a year, as a clerk in an office. At the beginning, my colleagues were very nice to me and included me in all activities, even outside working hours. However, this situation changed the day after the Christmas party. At the Christmas party, alcohol flowed in streams. Having no interest in getting senselessly drunk, I left the party early. My boss wanted to leave just as early to be with his family before midnight, so we left the company party at the same time. The next day, my colleagues at work behaved very distant towards me. During the lunch break, I plucked up my courage and asked a colleague if I was wrong about this and what the... Allegedly having sex with boss and all colleagues shunning me !

I have been working for about half a year, as a clerk in an office. At the beginning, my colleagues were very nice to me and included me in all activities, even outside working hours. However, this situation changed the day after the Christmas party. At the Christmas party, alcohol flowed in streams. Having no interest in getting senselessly drunk, I left the party early. My boss wanted to leave just as early to be with his family before midnight, so we left the company party at the same time. The next day, my colleagues at work behaved very distant towards me. During the lunch break, I plucked up my courage and asked a colleague if I was wrong about this and what the reason was. She said that everything knew that I had had sex with our boss and that it was an impertinence because I didn't seem to care that he was married and had children. My protestations that nothing like that had happened were met with a smug smile. Since then, work colleagues have shunned my company, randomly spilling their drinks on my workplace and calling me an office ...... I am already at a loss, because I am not aware of any guilt and I cannot imagine changing jobs at the moment because I am dependent on the money. I am already so desperate

]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Bergkristall Flori https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97817-allegedly-having-sex-with-boss-and-all-colleagues-shunning-me https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97717-how-i-deal-with-bullying-bullying-in-schools-nowadays Sat, 16 Apr 2022 10:48:44 GMT
Hello!
I have been bullied many times in my life. At school I was confronted with it on a daily basis. I didn't feel like I had a way out. Talk to my parents or the teachers? I was convinced that adults would only make things worse. After all, they were around for the least amount of time and didn't really notice anything. And when there was a "bullying" theme day at school, we were told to shout "STOP" loudly and firmly. That was nothing that helped me, I thought.

Thankfully, I've moved on from that time and unlike what all the adults claimed, I don't wish that time from school back. Everything is better now, no matter how bad it gets sometimes. For me, the big difference is that I am forced to do fewer things. I can choose what I do. I can also change my job if I can't do it anymore. I can also change a course at the university, which would not be so easy at school. Because we don't hang out with each other as much anymore, it's easier to keep a distance from potentially dangerous people.

At the same time, over time I've also managed to network with people who don't do bullying. I now have more people to talk to about my problems. I know institutions as contact persons.

But what about the situation of bullying in schools today? Has anything changed? And if so, what?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Dresden https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97717-how-i-deal-with-bullying-bullying-in-schools-nowadays https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97653-bullying-in-the-marriage-by-the-husband Tue, 12 Apr 2022 20:07:06 GMT bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Creatorin https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97653-bullying-in-the-marriage-by-the-husband https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97639-bullying-in-marriage-is-grueling-and-stressful Tue, 12 Apr 2022 09:04:28 GMT Bullying in marriage is grueling and stressful Without any question, it is of course anything but nice to be bullied. However, bullying is particularly grueling in a marriage or partnership. Being bullied and oppressed by a loved one sometimes sounds completely absurd, and yet in many cases the reality is quite different. I have also had to experience this in my own circle of friends. Mobbing can have many faces and in the worst case even degenerate into violence. However, when it comes to violence, one should not simply think of physical violence in the classic sense. Mobbing and violence can express themselves in a completely different way. So is to be thought thereby also of suppression and belittling. Mobbing is at the end evenly... Bullying in marriage is grueling and stressful

Without any question, it is of course anything but nice to be bullied. However, bullying is particularly grueling in a marriage or partnership. Being bullied and oppressed by a loved one sometimes sounds completely absurd, and yet in many cases the reality is quite different. I have also had to experience this in my own circle of friends. Mobbing can have many faces and in the worst case even degenerate into violence. However, when it comes to violence, one should not simply think of physical violence in the classic sense. Mobbing and violence can express themselves in a completely different way. So is to be thought thereby also of suppression and belittling. Mobbing is at the end evenly above all that, which can hurt a person very much. Often mobbing builds up slowly and then increases bit by bit more and more. For this reason alone, everyone is advised to get out of such a situation as quickly as possible and escape the vicious circle.
I am divorced in the meantime!]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Dyegree https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97639-bullying-in-marriage-is-grueling-and-stressful https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97415-new-colleague-bullying Thu, 31 Mar 2022 14:06:25 GMT
Hello, everyone,

I'm writing to you because I'm really at a loss. I am 42 and work in an office job. Due to a private matter, I reduced to part-time about 1.5 years ago. In addition, a new colleague was hired at the end of last year to support. He is sort of like my assistant (but works full time). I found him to be very friendly and attentive at first and also took a lot of time to train him in the processes. I am out of the office one day a week and I am starting to feel like he is undermining me. This can be things like him not notifying me of calls ("went down"), not forwarding emails or not CCing me ("got a handle on it, what's the problem").

The best is yet to come: Of course I have spoken to him about it. Several times, in fact. The answers are excuses, explanations or, like last week, even REPROACHES!!!! I shouldn't be so controlling, he could do it. I'm not one to invoke hierarchies, but he also doesn't meet deadlines and I have to rework things. At the same time, he has supposedly plausible explanations ready for all incidents, which makes it difficult for me to make things tangible to my boss. It has gone so far that I can hear him whispering to other colleagues and when I enter the room, the conversation is immediately over. He also no longer greets me or even just leaves without saying anything.

What really makes me despair is the fact that yesterday a colleague came to me and asked if everything was okay. I was quite surprised because I am quite tough professionally and don't mix my professional and private life. It turned out that the colleague in question claimed that he had to iron out some of my mistakes and that he was worried because - and here it comes - I was "slacking off so much in terms of performance". ???? I always give 100 per cent, what's the point? How can I make my boss believe that something is wrong? Or am I exaggerating?

I am very grateful for any opinions!]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Clown 3 https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97415-new-colleague-bullying https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97395-reunion-at-the-office-should-i-apologise-for-previous-bullying-school-days Thu, 31 Mar 2022 10:27:42 GMT
Hi. I'm in an emotional quandary and don't know what to do now. A few weeks ago, a new colleague started working for me at the company. We both work in the office, although in different departments. Nevertheless, we sometimes have to deal with each other or coordinate on different projects.

We know each other from our school days. Back then we were in the same class together. Some former school friends and I regularly bullied her. We stole her school supplies, told her off to the teachers or once even threw a lemonade in her hair. After this action she had to cry, but she didn't let on. To cut a long story short: We pretty much caught her in the crossfire! I'm not proud of that today. I think I let myself get carried away by my clique back then.

Although that was a long time ago, our relationship is not good. She hardly talks to me, gives me the evil eye all the time and avoids me when she can. Should I apologise to her for the behaviour back then? Can that loosen up the situation? I don't feel very comfortable with the strained relationship. However, I also don't want us to argue then and make the situation even more difficult. Of course, I also want to avoid my colleagues finding out about our past history.
How would you act in my role?
Many greetings!

( about my name Narrative from Wikipedia
Narrative is the term used to describe a meaningful narrative that influences the way the environment is perceived. It conveys values and emotions, is usually related to a nation state or a certain cultural area, I hope I have used it correctly in relation to bullying).]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Narrativ https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97395-reunion-at-the-office-should-i-apologise-for-previous-bullying-school-days https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97353-what-s-funny-about-a-younger-woman-losing-her-hair-will-smith-and-the-discussion-about-violence-alopecia-in-younger-women Tue, 29 Mar 2022 10:03:27 GMT
I myself once had the problem of losing my hair and I can well understand Will Smith's reaction.
For me it is about the question under which pressure one suffers with hair loss as a woman. Tasteless remarks from so called comedians are really just a brutal meanness !]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Lina Bu https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97353-what-s-funny-about-a-younger-woman-losing-her-hair-will-smith-and-the-discussion-about-violence-alopecia-in-younger-women https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97334-victim-of-bullying-all-life-long-sexual-threats-as-punishment-for-good-looks Mon, 28 Mar 2022 10:03:43 GMT
At the end of the 70's, when I had just finished my 3 year training as a potter and had also finished my diploma as a potter, I had to go to the employment office and they asked me why I had chosen this profession. These people from the employment office were not very friendly, rather threatening, they sat there in their gray costumes and looked at me with their cold looks. I didn't feel like explaining to them that I had a bad childhood and had to look for an education myself, because my parents had put me in a school to become a secretary, which wasn't exactly my life's dream.
I felt bullied and just walked out of the job center . For me there was no future in such a world where gray costumed people towards me could not even listen to me humanly, understandingly.
These gray people reminded me of the story of "Momo", which Michael Ende had written. I was afraid for my life

Also in the 70's I went with a childhood friend to Tèsè, which is near Dijon. That is to say that from Germany, we simply stuck out our thumbs; and were taken by motorists along the way. When they let us out on the highway at such a rest stop and I wanted to make pee, a man had threatened me. Thank God Michael had seen that and came to me immediately.
In Tèsè I had to hide because several boys had threatened me. Tierry, the Frenchman with whom we had made friends, knew his way around there a bit and had hidden us in a passage under the ground (catacomb) with Michael. There we had then waited until these stupid boys then again of Tèsè by the priests were thrown out.

Two years after I arrived in Brittany, I worked as a nanny in a family so that their son could learn to speak German. The father of the family liked me and his wife had noticed that. He didn't come on to me, he just turned to me to talk to someone about his problems. That had not liked then his wife and she had made then everything so that the life, there, became a hell. I am then as fast as I could, then out of there again.

At the end of the 80's I had worked as a helper in a creperie and had only managed to work there for 3 months, because the owner of this creperie always scolded me, no matter what I did, everything was too bad for her. After the 3 months I left there and had then turned here to the employment office to tell you, of the bad working conditions. The employment office knew it already, they had received several complaints.

In the 90 iger years I had had a job as a kindergarten helper in the middle of Brittany. Of course I had to move to that place. The other woman, who also worked there as a kindergarten assistant and had grown up in this place, was very jealous because the children liked me. She had only brought me trouble. For example, I would steal, which I did not do, and had not put pencils for painting in the right place or she had taken things away from the children and then said that I had done that. After a year I left there. I was sad because I liked the work.

In 2005 I found a job with a vegetable farmer for one year. I liked this work ; touching the earth with my hands, sowing, planting, sorting out, keeping plants clean and so on.... It was very tiring physically, but also morally. The vegetable farmer was from the psychological side, very unbalanced ; and could not distinguish between private life and the life of the employees. When we arrived at work in the morning, he started to scold us every day. Many people came to introduce themselves, but they didn't stay long. Sometimes only a week. Recently, this vegetable farmer, hung himself from a wooden beam.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Lina Bu https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97334-victim-of-bullying-all-life-long-sexual-threats-as-punishment-for-good-looks https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97280-bullying-can-you-learn-to-be-like-others-do-you-know-any-tricks Sat, 26 Mar 2022 10:12:33 GMT I (43, f.) have been struggling all my life with the fact that I behave very differently from "normal" people in many situations. As a result, I have experienced a lot of exclusion and bullying. My difference starts with the fact that I don't understand why people like to talk about other people and make them feel bad - I find such conversations unfair and extremely boring.

I can hardly take part in such things and then again I seem arrogant, unapproachable and sometimes even "antisocial". Now I'm wondering if it makes sense to practice techniques that make you seem more adapted, or if it might be better to stay more or less lonely. Of course I don't like to be alone, but I also don't want to become a bullying victim again, just because I can't manage to behave like the majority.

Do you know any tricks that prevent you from being bullied even though you have a slightly different communication and social behavior?
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Rubikon https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97280-bullying-can-you-learn-to-be-like-others-do-you-know-any-tricks https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97277-%C2%A0bullying-from-the-boss-bossing Sat, 26 Mar 2022 10:00:38 GMT My story is about my apprenticeship as a butcher over 12 years ago. At that time it was difficult to find an apprenticeship as a young person. When I finally got an acceptance for a vocational training two years after my graduation from school, it never occurred to me to break off this apprenticeship for any reason. Apprenticeship years are not master years, but my three years as an apprentice went far below the belt.

I was regularly bullied by my boss. He was choleric and relied on authoritarian leadership. He made you understand that an apprentice is worth nothing. Insults like "idiot" or "stupid" as well as degrading remarks aimed at negatively describing one's intelligence were the order of the day. The highlight of the three years was when my boss said to me, "Jerk off more often so you can be more focused!" With daily harassment and loud yelling, he always pursued the goal of hardening trainees through this. The consequences for me, however, were a limited ability to learn, a negative work ethic and a lowered self-esteem.

I made the best of these experiences. I completed a second degree, am now a Master of Science, and became a plant manager in another butcher's store. I had set myself the goal that one day I would become a better boss.

My appeal to all readers is: If there are people who are unfair to you, take this negative energy and turn it into a positive energy for you!]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Metzger https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97277-%C2%A0bullying-from-the-boss-bossing https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97245-moral-harassment-by-a-superior Wed, 23 Mar 2022 10:44:43 GMT
I am a team leader in an office with eight female and one male staff member. I did not grow up in this team, but I was hired from outside as a team leader. My predecessor was so careless that over time his colleagues took a lot of liberties: Visits to the doctor and coffee during working hours, or shifting his own working hours to suit his personal needs, leaving out uncomfortable work, to name just a few examples. From the beginning, I was observed with skepticism. Later, a colleague confided in me that the employees were afraid that I would reduce the "freedoms" acquired in the daily work. This is, of course, what happened.

While in the beginning my colleagues were still polite and sometimes friendly to me, this changed as more efficient structures were established in the office. In the meantime, there were, for example, the following incidents: If there was a problem, it was immediately referred to the works council without giving me the opportunity to find a solution. During a team-building measure with a coach commissioned for this purpose, the colleagues said that they did not need team leadership, but that they would be just as effective if they did the work themselves. When someone arranged lunch during the break, I was not asked if I wanted anything too. At team meetings, people sometimes show bad moods for no apparent reason. For my birthday, I received a sad, not to say withered, plant, while the other gifts are around 30 euros.

How do you see this? Is this a normal "rebellion" of colleagues who suddenly have to work more productively? Or is it already moral harassment?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Fragestellung https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97245-moral-harassment-by-a-superior https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97239-i-hate-my-job-am-i-being-bullied Tue, 22 Mar 2022 20:55:12 GMT I took a new job two months ago, as an assistant in a communications department. I feel so uncomfortable that I'm thinking about quitting. But maybe I'm just overreacting?
My three colleagues are a well-coordinated team. I feel very left out because they never include me in their meetings. They make me feel like I don't belong at all. Although I do my best to always get everything done right and quickly, my work is not appreciated. Instead, I regularly get biting comments when I make even a small mistake.
They also often make fun of my clothing style. I can't afford designer clothes like they can, and I often wear older clothes because I have to save money for personal reasons. When I come into the office, my colleague often greets me with a giggle, looks me up and down, and shakes her head. Maybe she doesn't mean it at all? But it hurts me a lot.
In the meantime, it's gotten to the point where I dread the next workday every evening. Am I exaggerating or is this really bullying? Do you have any experience with this? If so, what have you done?
Please help me out, I don't know how to fight back. I actually can't afford to quit or get fired, I need the job and the money badly. As I mentioned before, my financial situation is difficult right now.
Thanks in advance for your support!]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, XYKR https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97239-i-hate-my-job-am-i-being-bullied https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97003-abused-and-sexually-traumatised-by-uncle-at-the-age-of-10 Sat, 05 Mar 2022 01:21:56 GMT The year I turned ten was marked by an even more traumatic event.
That summer I went on holiday to my grandparents who lived with two of their unmarried children, my uncle and aunt, on a farm 600 km from my parents' house.
Another uncle, who was a priest, was staying there at the same time as me.
One afternoon, my grandmother and aunt ask me to tell him to come to the snack bar and they tell me where he is in the meadow next to the farm yard, where he is reading his breviary.
I know the area and find him easily. He asks me to sit next to him, but I don't feel like it because I don't feel close to this man, even though he seems to be "revered" in this very Catholic family.
But I was taught to obey the adults and I am obedient. And then he runs his hand up my skirt, then into my panties and touches my private parts, which shocks me, but I don't talk to anyone about it, my grandmother and my aunt are women I don't feel close to, I find them very "moral" and given the status of adults in general and my uncle in particular, I know that I will not be believed, that I will be accused of lying and that I could be punished and ostracised, as well as my parents, I know that it is better for me to remain silent.
Even before, I found this man a bit fake, mischievous, with wet, white hands compared to the hands of the men in the family, who were workers' hands. When he went on holiday to the family farm, he never helped, but bossed his mother and sister around, who worked hard.
After that, I always stayed away from this man, who I thought was deceitful.
I didn't tell this story until I was an adult, first to my younger sister, then to cousins and my other siblings, and I didn't go to his funeral because I knew he had abused many boys.
L année de mes 10 ans a été marqué par un événement plus traumatisant.
Cet été là, j etais en vacances chez mes grands parents qui vivaient dans une ferme avec deux de leurs enfants restés célibataires, mon oncle et ma tante,à 600 km de chez mes parents.
Un autre de les oncles, prêtre, y séjournait egalement en même temps que moi.
Un après-midi, ma grand mère et ma tante me demandent d aller lui dire de venir prendre le goûter et m indiquent où il se trouve dans la prairie proche de la cour de la ferme où il est en train de lire son bréviaire.
Je connais les lieux et le trouve facilement . Il me demande de m asseoir à côté de lui, je n en ai pas plus envie que ça car je ne me sens pas prochede cet homme qui semble pourtant "vénéré " dans cette famille très catholique.
Mais on m a appris à obéir aux adultes et je suis obéissante. Et alors il passe sa main sous ma jupe puis dans ma culotte et touche mon sexe ce qui me choque mais je n en parle à personne, ma grand-mère et ma tante sont des femmes dont je ne me sens pas proches , je les trouve très "dans la morale" et, vu le statut des adultes en général, et de mon uncle en particulier, je sais qu on ne me croira pas , qu on m accusera de mentir et que je risque d être punie et ostracisée ainsi que mes parents, je sais que c est mieux pour moi de me taire .
Auparavent, je trouvais déjà cet homme un peu faux, mielleux, avec des mains moites et blanches par rapport aux mains des hommes de la famille qui étaient des mains de travailleur. Quand il venait en vacances à la ferme familiale, il ne donnais jamais un coup de main et il commandait sa mère et sa soeur qui, elles, travaillaient dur.
Après je me suis toujours tenue à distance de cet homme que je trouvais fourbe.
Je n ai révélé cette histoire qu à l âge adulte , en premier à ma jeune sœur, puis à des cousines et à mes autres frères et sœurs et je me suis abstenue d aller à son enterrement de cet abuseur d autant que j ai cru comprendre qu il avait abusé de beaucoup de jeunes garçons.


]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Marine https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/97003-abused-and-sexually-traumatised-by-uncle-at-the-age-of-10 https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/96998-bullying-my-earliest-bad-memories-date-back-to-when-i-was-about-10-years-old Sat, 05 Mar 2022 01:01:32 GMT My earliest bad memories date back to when I was about 10 years old. The first one happened in the yard of the primary school during a recreation: a pupil a little older than me made fun of me because I had patched clothes. Indeed, I wear the clothes that were used by my older sister before me, my parents work on their small farm and are rather poor, we are a sibling of 5 children, our mother is a good seamstress but does not have enough money to clothe us better. Until then, this state of affairs had not really affected me because I was part of the majority of children in this school, it was the minority that was well dressed. I was aware that my cousins were better dressed than the 5 of us, but in this family setting I never received a... The first one happened in the yard of the primary school during a recreation: a pupil a little older than me made fun of me because I had patched clothes. Indeed, I wear the clothes that were used by my older sister before me, my parents work on their small farm and are rather poor, we are a sibling of 5 children, our mother is a good seamstress but does not have enough money to clothe us better. Until then, this state of affairs had not really affected me because I was part of the majority of children in this school, it was the minority that was well dressed.
I was aware that my cousins were better dressed than the 5 of us, but in this family setting I never received a glance or a bad word.
Many years later, as I was approaching my 40th birthday, at a reunion of former students of this school, I found this girl and I kindly reminded her of this episode which she did not remember at all....]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Marine https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/96998-bullying-my-earliest-bad-memories-date-back-to-when-i-was-about-10-years-old https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/96982-bullying-at-school-humiliating-experience-when-i-was-at-the-coll%C3%A8ge Fri, 04 Mar 2022 20:41:14 GMT One lunchtime, when we were walking in rows of two to the canteen (which most of the students attended), the director took me out of the row and lectured me in front of all the students because I was wearing pants (under a skirt or dress, as girls did then to go to school): He forbade me to wear pants, even though in the middle of winter I had to ride my bike 2 km at night in the morning to pick up the school bus, and the same in the evening.
For me, this was humiliating and very unfair, especially since there was a girl in the class who wore pants, not even under a skirt, but she was a doctor's daughter and did not eat in the canteen because she lived near the Collège.
I wondered if the director had chosen that moment not to question her (because she was the doctor's daughter). For me it was also unfair because she didn't have to freeze on the way to the college, she left much later in the morning than I did and only had a few hundred meters to walk. Was he trying to humiliate me because I was a hillbilly's daughter? He knew my situation, after all, because my older brother had started school a year before me and had met my parents.
Once again, I had to keep my mouth shut in front of a non-decent adult.
As a result, my mother went to the market in the nearest town and bought me what she found at the market, an ugly, dark beige pair of grandmother's tights that didn't keep me warm and probably put an unnecessary strain on her budget again....
As I write this, I realize that I hate freezing on my legs and in the winter I wear tights under pants when I go outside.
In sixth grade I realized that I was a "hillbilly" and I vowed that I would show that a hillbilly could be intelligent, and so I was a very good student throughout my school years, the doctor's daughter was far behind me.....
I also realized that I did not choose my profession by chance, by becoming a social worker, which allowed me to defend the "hillbillies", help them, support them, encourage them and give them back their dignity.Where I worked, the farmers were "handicapped" from birth and had difficulties with the authorities because they could not easily deal with the "paperwork".
]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Papermoon https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/96982-bullying-at-school-humiliating-experience-when-i-was-at-the-coll%C3%A8ge https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/96476-more-jealousy-among-seniors-abandoned-by-my-girlfriend-because-i-have-too-much-money Sun, 21 Nov 2021 18:43:29 GMT I bought a car. Twice as expensive as his car. Not to piss him off. The car just has a lot of electronics that make it safer to drive.
The problems started. She didn't like the car. Yet modern cars all look the same inside.
For years we were together in a sports club. Suddenly, that didn't suit her either.
Then I bought some large plants for my garden. When I bought them, she asked me if I had an adrenaline rush. What a load of crap! I bought those plants because I love plants. Not to brag.
Every time I spent a large amount of money, she supposedly had high blood pressure.
Eventually we distanced ourselves. I don't know how things will develop.
In general, do people become more envious with age?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Hannibal https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/96476-more-jealousy-among-seniors-abandoned-by-my-girlfriend-because-i-have-too-much-money https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12583-change-of-job-because-of-covid-19-does-the-boss-have-to-agree Thu, 18 Mar 2021 09:52:40 GMT





Translated with DeepL...../Translator (free version)]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Jaqueline K. https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12583-change-of-job-because-of-covid-19-does-the-boss-have-to-agree https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12485-bullying-or-am-i-simply-impossible Sun, 25 Oct 2020 09:11:53 GMT

So, this would be my third attempt to write a performance. One time the children interfered, the other time it got way too long. So... Number three.


Until recently, I thought I was really lucky. I moved with my family from the big city to the small town. The jobs there are not exactly abundant. But I searched diligently anyway, because I wanted to go back to work for a few hours after my parental leave, to make friends and well... a little money is never wrong, of course. I actually found something too. It seemed perfect: a small call centre, a few minutes' walk, working hours that are compatible with children and spouses, pleasant work itself and the colleagues seemed super nice too.


I got along particularly well with one colleague (there are 3 of us in total, plus the boss). She constantly told me that she liked me a lot and was happy that I was there, we talked on the phone privately and had fun in the office. I was praised very much because my performance was good. It was never a competition or anything. On the contrary. We were always happy for each other.


Until about a week and a half ago.


I actually managed to make them angry twice by saying something rash. It was really nothing bad. Nothing that could not have been solved by talking. She accused me of .....iness and arrogance.
The next day: the same game. This time it concerned my young colleague. The day did not go well for any of us and I was happy to get a last-minute assignment. Said to the boss: Phew, better that than nothing. I got into a lot of trouble from my older colleague. What am I thinking? The young colleague wouldn't have had anything and would have been completely bent over. I apologised again in due form.
As I know that I sometimes express myself in a very misleading way, I asked her to point this out and emphasised that I generally never mean anything like that in a bad way. My older colleague then became quite cold and said that I had to know that I was grown up and had children. I told her that people are different. Useless.


Since then it has been going on like this every day. Meanwhile I am only insecure. And what happens when you compulsively try to do everything right? Exactly.


My older colleague now jumps at what I say like a shooting dog. She has already admitted this to me.


Words are turned around in my mouth, mistakes (yes, I make some, even stupid beginner's mistakes. This is completely human, I think, especially since I haven't been around that long), people in the office laugh at me and accuse me of things that are not correct.


I'm a suck-up because I hold the door open (but that's how I should be).


I am jealous of what the others get in terms of orders. I always look at the blackboard (aha. There can't be any other reasons like "I have to get busy")


If I withdraw, I am the party pooper. If I say something, I can be sure that I have to listen to it again.


How you do it, you do it wrong.


Once she pointed out to me that I talk too fast. I said: "I know that, but since I generally speak quickly, sometimes you fall into this automatic, thanks for the hint" She said, "I can see that you're angry with me again. I said: "No, I am grateful when I am told that. My former boss once recorded this on tape and played it for me. I didn't find that annoying either, but interesting."
Then she got really aggressive and said: "AHA! So even then you didn't obey work instructions! But I'll have to go to the boss in the office..."


For once, I - admittedly - did not do what she told me. But it wasn't because I didn't feel like it, but because it didn't work for me in the first few days and after that I got used to my handwritten notes. But she only said every now and then in a very nice and uncontrolled way that it was much more practical. I tried it, saw the benefits, thanked her very much and thought it would be okay. Not at all! That is what I am still being reproached for today.




In the last few days she has given me input from time to time between phone calls. Well, or rather she pointed out mistakes to me. I thanked her and made myself a post-it. That's the best way to remember it. She was angry because I only said "Yes, okay, thanks". What a nerve!!! A post-it would be unnecessary, you have to remember it that way!!! Again, I wouldn't follow the work instructions!! She sacrifices her valuable working time and has to put up with such a snotty answer! I told her that I didn't want to steal her time *not* with the short answer and that I wanted to show with the immediate implementation that it is important to me. Nope. Bad Juju. Endless discussions.


When I ask her to listen to me, even if she has improved, she suddenly has to work. She always emphasises (when I make mistakes) that it is her job to teach us everything right.


These are just a few examples.


My younger colleague told me in the beginning that she knew what I meant when we were alone. But when the older colleague is there, she always confirms what she is saying. I think she is also afraid and is happy not to be in the line of fire herself. In my short time I have already seen two people fly - because of personal differences with the older colleague.


Of course I have often sought the conversation. To no avail. It only gets better for a short time. And then I say something again that upsets her mercilessly. At first I thought it was probably my fault. I always apologise, even if I didn't understand. Asking my husband a thousand times, he always gives me honest feedback. In fact he told me twice that I expressed myself stupidly. Yes. Okay. But also here: Why can't we talk about it normally?


I also know that my colleague regularly "squeals" to the boss. With her interpretation of things, of course. Of course I am not asked.
My performance has suffered massively. I got scolded for that, also for the above mentioned "refusal to work". Everyone agreed. I felt so bad because I would have liked to talk about the real reasons.
I don't need to talk to my boss, it backfired. According to my colleague, he now also thinks I'm "impossible" and probably laughs at me even when I'm around. This happened once while I was still there. He was called out especially and was amused about me. He acted as if I didn't mind. But in reality I felt bad.


But at the end of last week my colleague said to me several times with a very strange look: "It's your own fault what's going on here. Only YOU, do you understand that???" I somehow knew that it can't be all my fault. Also their eternal "You must be angry now" or "I bet you'll run to the boss, I have a feeling that way..." show me that even I know that I have reason to be angry.


I would have changed so negatively and it is no fun anymore with me. Yes, I said, because I've become so damn insecure and it's like pounding a minefield. But they don't understand that. You've become really exhausting, it's so nice when you're not there. That is true
I mean, I haven't been at work since yesterday, and I've almost always had a good relationship with everyone (I don't think I can work with everyone anyway). I was usually classified as "somewhat special, but hard-working, nice, sociable, etc.". I am still in contact with many ex-colleagues today. If I was that bad, wouldn't I be?


I am so exhausted at the moment. The stress follows me into my private life, I have stomach problems, headaches because I crunch at night and sleep badly. I have two more children "on the side" and my husband goes to work when I just come home. I notice that I hardly have any strength left since then, but I need it so urgently


This is actually very unpleasant for me, after just under a month and a half I'm already so ... well, I'll say "to shit" flippantly. But just the thought of having to go back on Monday is so scary.


I'm just at the beginning of the probationary period. What can I do? I can't quit my job myself, because then the ALG1 would no longer apply. If they give me notice (if only because of my poor performance at the moment), what can happen? Is there anything I can do? I would actually like to continue working there. If only that were not the case. Or at least be able to stand on my hind legs. But I can already guess what will happen then.


I thank you for reading and any input. You help me a lot with that.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, bluetooth https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12485-bullying-or-am-i-simply-impossible https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12300-i-m-not-comfortable-at-work Sun, 07 Jun 2020 08:31:45 GMT I'm not comfortable at work.

of humanity on 31.05.2020


Hello, everybody,
I am a mother of two children and have been working in retail for exactly one year now, and at the end of February I was given a new branch manager and sales manager.
actually I loved my job, but due to the pressure it is no longer bearable.
so now we come to my problem, I was after the termination of my old store manager to talk to my sales manager and ask for a transfer. this I have also done and he asked: do you want to withdraw the termination. I answer: Yes if I am transferred.
He told me I should withdraw the cancellation by email and he will contact me on Tuesday (26.05.20)
He did and told me that I was being transferred and if I could work that week? my answer was yes and so I went to work on Thursday and you wouldn't believe who was there, my old store manager as we were doing inventory and he was helping out.
I was so shocked that I could not work quietly and was totally nervous. Friday I also had to work and my new boss is not better than the old one, I thought it couldn't be worse, but I was wrong.
Now I don't want to work there either and I regret my decision very much, and I wonder if I have to give a new notice and continue working there for another month or could the employer just forget that I have withdrawn the notice.
I have to work on Tuesday and actually I don't want to go back, and I would like to call my sales manager on Tuesday and tell him that I don't want to go back.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Boston legal https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12300-i-m-not-comfortable-at-work https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12275-cancer-due-to-bullying-stress-at-work-or-trouble-with-the-partner Sat, 23 May 2020 00:25:53 GMT Cancer due to bullying, stress at work or trouble with the partner The increase in cancer is partly offset by better therapies. But, more and more people are affected by the different types of cancer. Why is that so? Environmental influences are often held responsible. But stress, permanent anger, quarrels and bullying have also been recognised as causes of cancer. Can years of bullying cause cancer? The answer is a clear yes ! The human body reacts to stress by releasing hormones. This is sometimes good to cope with a conflict situation. At least in the past it was good when fight or flight was necessary to ensure survival. But, currently, hitting on it is very rarely a solution. The result is that problem situations become more and... The increase in cancer is partly offset by better therapies. But, more and more people are affected by the different types of cancer. Why is that so? Environmental influences are often held responsible. But stress, permanent anger, quarrels and bullying have also been recognised as causes of cancer.
Can years of bullying cause cancer?
The answer is a clear yes !
The human body reacts to stress by releasing hormones. This is sometimes good to cope with a conflict situation. At least in the past it was good when fight or flight was necessary to ensure survival. But, currently, hitting on it is very rarely a solution. The result is that problem situations become more and more acute. Bullying becomes a disease-causing element. It begins with headaches and insomnia and often ends with chronic diseases or even cancer.
I would like to see this issue receive more attention in the forum and I would like to hear from those affected.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, blue marlin https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12275-cancer-due-to-bullying-stress-at-work-or-trouble-with-the-partner https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12001-does-writing-help-against-bullying-or-neighbourhood-disputes-is-the-attacker-fended-off-or-is-it-just-a-psychological-effect Mon, 04 May 2020 11:05:54 GMT Does writing help against bullying or neighbourhood disputes? Is the attacker fended off or is it just a psychological effect? I have various problems that can be classified as bullying and neighbourhood disputes. While writing and publishing these problems I have noticed that the pressure has disappeared from my chest. I felt, especially with the neighbourhood problem, that I could finally do something. I had contacted the local press with my problem, but they were not interested. Also radio and television. So it was really liberating for me to publish my stories in this forum. I did that some time ago and got good answers. My question to other people concerned : should I inform my neighbours about the publication, and how do... Does writing help against bullying or neighbourhood disputes? Is the attacker fended off or is it just a psychological effect?


I have various problems that can be classified as bullying and neighbourhood disputes.
While writing and publishing these problems I have noticed that the pressure has disappeared from my chest. I felt, especially with the neighbourhood problem, that I could finally do something. I had contacted the local press with my problem, but they were not interested. Also radio and television.
So it was really liberating for me to publish my stories in this forum. I did that some time ago and got good answers.


My question to other people concerned : should I inform my neighbours about the publication, and how do I do that ?
I could have the contributions printed out and let the wind blow them away". There is no name on them, but everyone in the settlement would know who is meant. Other suggestions ?
Thank you,]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Irrgarten https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/12001-does-writing-help-against-bullying-or-neighbourhood-disputes-is-the-attacker-fended-off-or-is-it-just-a-psychological-effect https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11940-question-is-this-a-text-that-says-that-i-wish-my-mother-dead Fri, 10 Apr 2020 14:25:19 GMT

I have written the following mail to my partner:


"I'm in the process of preparing for my mother's funeral. I also found a good picture of her 80th birthday. This goes to the funeral service.
So everything would be prepared. With the problems with the Corona - virus this seems to me to be necessary.
On the other hand, I spoke to the nursing home today. My mother is fine. She's put on 2 kg.
She's very picky about food and she yells when she doesn't like it. So, everything is fine!"




From this text my partner has concluded that I want to put my mother in the ground.


Is that normal? I mean, can the text make such a conclusion?


Translated with www.DeepL..../Translator (free version)]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Fragesteller https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11940-question-is-this-a-text-that-says-that-i-wish-my-mother-dead https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11488-how-to-deal-with-bullying Sun, 22 Dec 2019 21:23:08 GMT

I have registered here and want to tell my story first, about which I would like to hear some opinions / suggestions. It is a deadlocked situation and I really do not know what else to do?!


For your information, I will change names, they are only for distinction. Nobody recognizes real names


It all started in Feb. 2007 when I helped to unload a truck in a company here in the village. The "foreman" was sick and I stood in for him. Since he was absent for a longer time, the boss hired me directly. Besides "Foreman" Alfred, his wife Else has an important leading role. The colleagues at that time are more like supporting actors. Foreman in quotation marks because the boss expressly says that there is no hierarchy in his company. However, he is rarely or hardly ever in production and so Alfred secretly gave himself the title of foreman. My colleagues told me at the time that he had just arrived in the region from Russia and after a few weeks he was hired directly. He could hardly speak German, did not know anything about tools or machines, but after 10 minutes he pushed the senior employee of the company aside and said in scraps: "You can't do anything, I am Alfred, the very best! That's his motto, Alfred can do everything, nobody else can do anything. I am a trained metal worker, he always wants to explain to me how to grind and weld metal and so on. I have to say that I have been a do-it-yourselfer since I was a child, I screw on cars, I am interested in technology, I quickly get into topics and with logical thinking I can quickly get into the subject with the simple work processes/machines. Alfred is rather the one, he used to have a hammer and pliers at home, he can't handle more. You can see him putting a wrench on a screw..." I can do that! ... Oh, but the screw was broken before!!!". It's hard to explain, and it sounds harsh when I say, everything he does, he does wrong. I could give you examples, hardly anyone understands them, because you would have to know our working procedures/machines.
One thing maybe: We got a new truck, he wanted to fill up the first time. His colleagues all told him not to fill up the diesel where he had put the canister, because there was a drop of oil on the lid. Alfred can do everything better and dumps a complete can of diesel into the oil tank. He was not interested in the fact that the filler neck for diesel is on the other side and also has a bold DIESEL on it. If you think he can't do anything wrong on a job, he does it anyway. He says he is the fastest, but realistically he and his wife are the slowest and block the whole company.


Back to me: When Alfred was still sick, I had looked at the storage system very quickly, had everything under control. Material procurement etc. I did almost in my sleep, I could be woken up in the middle of the night and I could tell from home from my head where things were. Alfred rather had the system, "I put this here and look for it in half an hour for 3 days". With me it took a very long time before I even noticed that something was going terribly wrong in the company and I didn't say anything against it for too long. Today it is unfortunately already too late. In any case, the crux is that I am better than "the best", but I can't even help it. His colleagues always say he's a jerk, his wife says he's disabled. Even the boss and secretary say they know he's a nutter. Only his wife and he think he's God. Although that's a contradiction in terms somewhere, it doesn't leave them alone.
So, over time, there have been some illnesses on my part. Started I think in 2009, when I was sitting here at my laptop one evening and suddenly got a strong nosebleed. I have always been a bit sensitive in this relationship, probably inherited from my father. But that evening/night it was especially bad. I was almost only in the bathroom and it would not stop bleeding. I partly had the feeling that I was about to lie in the bathroom and bleed to death. The next day I went to the family doctor and told him everything. He wanted to measure my blood pressure and it started again. He stood there at my feet, "What are we gonna do?" Actually he's the doctor, but I told him to think about it, luckily I had a towel with me to press my nostril. In the meantime I was ill because of suspicion of burnout and other psychological things, nothing longer, because my family doctor warned again and again, "it must be good again quickly!
In May 2016 we had long heavy thunderstorms here and among other things my working place was flooded.

We had almost one meter of water in the halls, material completely wet, actually useless But nothing was thrown away, everything was dried. This made the material hard as bones and since I was working on a production line in the meantime, I had so much pain in my wrists at the end of 2016 that I could hardly move them. The pain is now all over my body, in every joint.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Translatorix https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11488-how-to-deal-with-bullying https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11354-bullying-for-nothing-bullying-for-nothing Fri, 26 Jul 2019 10:59:05 GMT Bullying for nothing, bullying for nothing!


Years ago I did an internship in a chemistry laboratory. We were 12 interns preparing for their studies.
One of them was a bit "clumsy" in his way. He also had a dialect and glasses. He was conspicuously trying to please the others and also tried to be humorous.
One of our group does not want to suffer him. I don't know the reason for it until today.
Anyway, a typical mobbing situation developed without any reason. At first the wearer of glasses was ignored. When he made a joke the others pulled on their imaginary beards, that is to say the joke has a beard, totally boring.


If he tried to talk to us, we turned around, he was just air!


It was particularly bad to throw foreign substances into his analysis when he was on the toilet. He then found elements that the instructor had not put into the analysis. Result: bad grades.


Once we put some other substances into his analysis. He almost despaired when the solution turned purple during titration and green again.
All in all, we made his life hell, although there was absolutely no reason for it.
The main culprit was my "friend", but we all (!) participated. Why ? I still wonder today ?
Mobbing just like that - without sense, without reason and with bad consequences.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Reinhardt https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11354-bullying-for-nothing-bullying-for-nothing https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11339-i-feel-unwanted-in-the-workplace-and-am-afraid-that-it-will-lead-to-bullying-what-do-you-think Sat, 13 Jul 2019 13:52:10 GMT

I have registered here today because I am increasingly having problems with my colleagues at work. I hope you can give me some advice.


I am 42 years old and have worked in the commercial sector for several years. Unfortunately, however, my attempts to gain a foothold somewhere in the long term failed again and again. I was dismissed several times during my probationary period and twice after 2 years with the company. At some point I realized that I was simply not suited for this job. It failed again and again because of my slow pace of work and my lack of concentration.


Since I always had a good connection to older people, I decided to do a further training and to apply as a caregiver in old people's homes. It took quite a long time until I finally got a commitment. I am a person with little self-confidence and therefore I am mostly too insecure.


Anyway, I was happy when I was able to start as a caregiver in an old people's home on 01 February of this year. But unfortunately I had start difficulties. The carer, who trained me, did not get along with my reserved nature. Likewise a coworker of the social service, which treated me from the outset very pejoratively. Unfortunately, I forgot some things at the beginning of my job and so the colleague who had trained me exposed me after a few weeks at the team meeting with the words: "You forget almost everything!
I spoke to her about the fact that I didn't find her behaviour fair and that I don't want any hostilities in the team. She only defended herself, but didn't apologize.


In mid-March I had my first staff meeting with my supervisor, the head of the social service. Unfortunately the feedback was very negative, the written evaluation was corresponding. I was indirectly threatened with dismissal if there was no significant improvement by the end of March. I was very depressed after the interview, but gave my best because I wanted to keep the job. I enjoy taking care of the elderly.


I didn't hear anything at first, but the harassment from the social worker continued. It has happened repeatedly that she snarled at me in front of residents. So it's no wonder that some of the residents have already dropped the saying about me: "That's not a real employee, it's just a helper. How can they respect me when they hear something like that?
There was of course water on the mills at her place when a caregiver recently complained about me. After an event, I simply and emotionally forgot to place the tables and chairs with her again because I was busy with a confused inhabitant. This colleague immediately denounced me to the social worker. I apologized twice to both of them for my faux pas, but they rubbed my nose a few more times. Of course, the manager also heard about this incident immediately after her vacation and it was briefly discussed at the team meeting.


At the end of April I had a work sample which my superior rated as good. However this work sample consisted only of a job offer with a single inhabitant. So it was said that in general I was still too reserved in dealing with the residents, too colourless in the team and my documentation was partly not accurate enough.



3 weeks ago I had another employee interview and my supervisor informed me that after the probationary period I will continue to work until the end of the fixed-term contract in January. I was reticent, but even a calm employee could be an enrichment for a team. She likes me and appreciates my reliability.
I also had a short talk with the director of the home. She asked me if I really wanted to continue working there. She had never met such a shy employee before. I replied that I was happy because I like doing the job. She looked skeptical, but ok, I have survived the probationary period soon.


Somehow I don't know if I should be really happy about it. I am repeatedly told that the two social workers do not appreciate me, nor do the other carers, except one. Some did not even greet me last Monday, when I had my first working day after my vacation. Some speak very disparagingly to me. But we are supposed to be a functioning team!


I have a very strong impression that almost everyone would have been interested in my resignation. But that it didn't happen because the leader of the social service was working for me. Probably on the grounds that I am friendly and reliable. I also jump whenever she wants something from me. It doesn't matter if it's a service that deviates from the plan or if I have to serve for a task that I'm not supposed to do. Which is certainly not enough for the others in terms of arguments FOR my person.


But I think that they will continue to make it difficult for me there, even though I give my best.
In addition certain behavior is as well known often a preliminary stage to the Bullying - Mobbing.
I feel uncomfortable there and cannot imagine that the situation will develop positively.


How do you judge the whole thing?
Do you also see it in such a way that I am obviously unwanted there?
Would you advise me to apply elsewhere?


Many greetings,

Pogon]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Pogon https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11339-i-feel-unwanted-in-the-workplace-and-am-afraid-that-it-will-lead-to-bullying-what-do-you-think https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11250-i-am-harassed-and-bullied-every-day Thu, 23 May 2019 14:34:55 GMT I have already been advised, which has helped a little. I feel like I'm trapped because I can't (walk) leave because I need the money.


But I feel that if I stay, I will suffer a breakdown. I am harassed and bullied every day. It is a constant problem. I talked to my boss about it and I talked to our human resources department, but that only made the situation worse.
My boss doesn't want to deal with it, she tells me that I have to stop worrying about it. I have had terrible problems (a result of chronic stress).
I know I'm being targeted because I'm thin and smart compared to the women I work with.


All the top managers appreciate me very much. I have surpassed all my colleagues.
I have now felt increasingly insecure and harassed in my job. If someone has gone through this, or has any advice, I would be really happy.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Charlene https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/11250-i-am-harassed-and-bullied-every-day https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10904-seems-that-everyone-these-days-are-very-selfish-money-conscious-lovers-of-money-untrustworthy-violent-and-without-love-for-fellow Thu, 10 Jan 2019 17:12:38 GMT Hello

,
I am sorry we don't know each other,it is very unfortunate that i had to resort to contacting a foreigner "(YOU)", to confide in.

I have a big issue in trusting people around me,Seems that everyone these days are very selfish, money conscious, lovers of money, untrustworthy, violent and without love for fellow.

Please where you live are there people that are still trustworthy,those that wouldn't betray for selfish gains?.

I will appreciate your sincere response and to keep in touch if you don't mind.

Your Sincerely

Bird5]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Bird5 https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10904-seems-that-everyone-these-days-are-very-selfish-money-conscious-lovers-of-money-untrustworthy-violent-and-without-love-for-fellow https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10876-suddenly-too-slow-at-work Mon, 10 Dec 2018 12:02:55 GMT Suddenly too slow at work?


Hello everybody ...


At this point, I would like to raise another issue, as an addition to a problem, which I recently mentioned here in advance.
I had recently reported from my superiors, with whom I quarrel for over 2 months, whereby we exchange since then only about the essentials and just just professional. On the whole, that also works quite well, although I also feel that the situation has relaxed a little bit.
Now, though, behind my back she complains to my boss's wife, with whom I have a great deal of sympathy, that I'm supposed to make my job too slow. The background is the fact that on Saturdays we have an increased customer frequency at times and we often have to serve the customers all alone in the department. However, it sometimes happens that one or the other customer complains about the fact that only one person alone serves the customers. Against this background, my boss, so the manager my supervisor addressed that it can not be that Saturday lunchtime, where it is sometimes fuller, almost always only one does his job. He has made her understand that she would like to try for another work plan to counteract such problems in the future.
So, first of all, my supervisor did her duty alone at lunch today, until I got in the afternoon. You will not believe it, but "by chance" she did not have much clientele at the time, so it was very quiet.
After about 1 hour, she made her break and you will not believe it, within 2 minutes the department was full, as if a bus had pulled up !! OK, she interrupted her break for a while and helped me to serve the customers.
Well, when she went back into the break room and at the desk of our boss's wife, she said to her at the moment that I'm probably too slow at work. Firstly, I am NOT too slow and secondly I can not help it if in the very same moment suddenly so many customers come, where I'm just alone in the department again !! Incidentally, there are even witnesses to these "strange" circumstances !! Apart from that, I will soon be in this company for 10 years, working with my so-called superiors over 5 years together.
And somehow I'm too slow at work ... and strangely, such statements always come just when there are major problems or I am in dispute with my colleague? And above all ... why does not she remind me herself that she is not satisfied with my performance, so that I have any chance to think about it and work on it, if that is necessary at all? In addition ... if she has serious and well-founded concerns ... why does not she then go to the next superior manager or directly to the boss, at this point my work performance in question and if necessary. To be checked? But no, I hear it from a completely different source and nothing happens!
I have to say that I understand my boss, his wife and all other superiors very well ... only with her I have problems again and again. In addition, I have been informed from a higher, secured source that the boardroom, the negative characteristics of my colleague or superiors, but I do not want to list all here again, are quite well known. My boss is happy that he has them, but I would like to keep the reasons for this better for myself ... ;-)
But ... what is going on in this person's mind and, above all, what is she aiming at? I have to say that she is very moody and often lets others feel when she is not feeling well or when she has ALSO PRIVATE problems. As long as everything goes as she imagines and wants, the world is in order and you can get along quite well. But woe there are problems ... technically and also private, but then Holland is in need !!!
What do you think about this and how would you handle it?


Thank you for your suggestions]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Elli 3 https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10876-suddenly-too-slow-at-work https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10869-filmed-watching-while-watching-sex-movies-and-then-blackmailed Fri, 30 Nov 2018 09:48:49 GMT filmed watching .... while watching sex movies and then blackmailed I had written a short report here in the forum and then got some PNs. The problem is still up to date. The main question is, how is that possible? filmed watching .... while watching sex movies

and then blackmailed


I had written a short report here in the forum and then got some PNs. The problem is still up to date.


The main question is, how is that possible?


It is technically very easy. It loads without noticing a Trojan on the computer. This can happen when opening an unknown website or email
The Trojan manipulates the computer turns on the camera. The camera is running without the owner sitting in front of the computer, which notices.


Who looks at sex movies can be filmed without him noticing it. Also, his other activities can take the camera.


It helps to cover the camera of the screen.

Or to turn the external camera in a different direction. Also think about the microphones!]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Longdonny https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10869-filmed-watching-while-watching-sex-movies-and-then-blackmailed https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10865-shot-during-sex-filming-on-the-screen Thu, 29 Nov 2018 13:46:23 GMT

This is technically very easy. Somebody load a Trojan on the computer and turn on the camera.

The camera is running without the human being noticing this in front of the computer.

Who watches sex movies can be filmed!

His other acivities can also be captured by the camera. It helps to cover the camera (lens) of the screen. Or to turn the external camera in a different direction.

Also think about the microphones!

See also : http://forum.mobbing.net/showthread.php/11749-filmed-watching-....-while-watching-sex-movies-and-then-blackmailed]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Longdonny https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10865-shot-during-sex-filming-on-the-screen https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10861-subtle-bullying-in-the-gymnastics-club-pilates-what-should-be-done-with-a-ridiculous-lie Wed, 28 Nov 2018 06:50:20 GMT

I live abroad and am there in a gymnastics group. We do "normal gymnastics", Pilates and some kind of yoga / meditation.

About 2 months ago we did a yoga exercise for the first time. In any case, I believe it was a yoga exercise because I do not fully understand the language.

The group lay down on the floor or a foam mattress. Then the gym teacher read a text that seemed to be relaxing. I do not understand the text, because the gym teacher has read quietly and relatively quickly. After about 10 minutes one of the ladies of the gym started to snore. She was obviously asleep.

I had no trouble laughing and turned to the other side.

When the exercise was over after about 30 minutes, we smiled at the snoring lady.
One of the participants then claims that I fell asleep and snored. I told her it would not be true. But she stayed with it.
Two weeks ago she claimed again inside the group I had slept and snored.
This week again the same nonsense. In front of several people of the group she came back to the topic, I had slept and snored. I do not understand why she always claims the same nonsense.
I spoke to her about it.
Since I do not speak the language correctly, I can not really defend myself. I think the process is very hurtful in any case, but I do not know how I can defend myself.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Agenda personnel https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10861-subtle-bullying-in-the-gymnastics-club-pilates-what-should-be-done-with-a-ridiculous-lie https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10839-fake-text-about-hacked-e-mails-careful-phishing-attempt-spam-virus-trojans Fri, 09 Nov 2018 13:17:49 GMT Fake text about hacked e-mails, careful phishing attempt, spam, virus, Trojans, Fake text: Hello, I hope you are well? On my side, some frights related to Sante concerns I would like to talk about, If you have a little time to grant me do not hesitate to answer me by mail as I am out of service at tel. I would like our exchanges to remain confidential. I hope to hear from you quickly. Hugs,
Fake text: Hello, I hope you are well?
On my side, some frights related to Sante concerns I would like to talk about,
If you have a little time to grant me do not hesitate to answer me by mail as I am out of service at tel.
I would like our exchanges to remain confidential.
I hope to hear from you quickly.
Hugs,]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Joyce https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10839-fake-text-about-hacked-e-mails-careful-phishing-attempt-spam-virus-trojans https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10782-at-the-age-of-82-years-600-km-over-the-highway-what-should-i-do-what-can-i-do Mon, 24 Sep 2018 10:25:46 GMT
What should I do ? I have a friend who really wants to visit her son. With her car!

The distance is over 1200 km. She wants to stay once. But, after all, there are 600 km which she drives in one piece over the highway.
I think she is a danger to herself. And a danger to other drivers.

She could easily travel by train. That's what she did earlier.

Now suddenly she wants to drive. Old age stubbornness?

I talked her well. Arguments delivered. Yes, even offered a sum of 100 euros if she travels by train.

What should I do ?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, grande fatigue https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10782-at-the-age-of-82-years-600-km-over-the-highway-what-should-i-do-what-can-i-do https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10777-bullying-in-the-workplace-by-the-boss-my-husband-is-sad-but-dares-not-do-something Sat, 22 Sep 2018 18:39:28 GMT Bullying in the workplace by the boss, my husband is sad, but dares not do something Hello, It has been several months since my husband came back sad. When I saw him, I thought he was having trouble. I ask him what happened, Every time he tells me that his boss has bullied it again. I cheered him until I saw that he was feeling better. Yesterday he came back in horror and said that he was called. One of his superiors tells him: what do you want to be? Your whole life, you do that and still can not do it right. If you want to develop yourself in a company, then do something! Otherwise we have no job for you. Here we need you, if you do not change. I did not think it was that bad, but he explained that it was very bad for him. He can... Hello,
It has been several months since my husband came back sad. When I saw him, I thought he was having trouble. I ask him what happened, Every time he tells me that his boss has bullied it again. I cheered him until I saw that he was feeling better.
Yesterday he came back in horror and said that he was called. One of his superiors tells him: what do you want to be? Your whole life, you do that and still can not do it right. If you want to develop yourself in a company, then do something! Otherwise we have no job for you. Here we need you, if you do not change.

I did not think it was that bad, but he explained that it was very bad for him. He can do his best, but will never be promoted. He said that he was fed up with being bullied every day with remarks, ridicule from his boss. I asked him: do you think that's bullying or just sensitivity? He said yes it is bullying and had tears in his eyes.

I told him to just step back. His health is more important than the rest.
But he does not want to hear anything.
What can I do? I'm afraid he does not tell me everything and he has depression.
Thank you for the reading .]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Christine 1982 https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10777-bullying-in-the-workplace-by-the-boss-my-husband-is-sad-but-dares-not-do-something https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10772-is-it-sad-when-a-text-is-deleted-on-wikipedia-nope Fri, 21 Sep 2018 11:32:23 GMT Is it sad when a text is deleted on Wikipedia? Nope! Example: Wikipedia France does not accept texts published in Wikipedia Germany as sources. Much more important is the fact that no scientific publication accepts Wikipedia as a reference. No university accepts Wikipedia as a reference.
Example: Wikipedia France does not accept texts published in Wikipedia Germany as sources. Much more important is the fact that no scientific publication accepts Wikipedia as a reference. No university accepts Wikipedia as a reference.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Millefleurs https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10772-is-it-sad-when-a-text-is-deleted-on-wikipedia-nope https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10769-entry-at-wikipedia-a-gauntlet Wed, 19 Sep 2018 18:36:37 GMT
I thought an entry on Wikipedia would be supported by the respective admins. But far from it!

What I had to experience was a gauntlet. Every involved admin was beating me!

A beginner seems to be something to eat for certain people.

To the facts:

I have already published the text in French, because the entry was made in the French Wikipedia.
First of all to the problems with the langue, that interested nobody at all. On the contrary !

The text was criticized and I then respectively improved or uploaded photos. As soon as a problem was corrected, one of the admins already found the next one: "personal opinion of the author", "explanation desired", were the common entries in the published text.

In addition colored banners over the whole side at the entrance of the text with various request and extinguishing threats.

When I commented on a discussion page, the discussion page was abruptly deleted on the grounds that this would be "personal".

Overall, a sobering and depressing experience.

I have now sent an apparently more reasonable admin an opinion and would first wait to see how he intends to handle the matter, I do not want to spill the child with the bath.

I will keep you up to date.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Chamberlain https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10769-entry-at-wikipedia-a-gauntlet https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10741-simple-posts-against-bullying-discussion-translation-programs Sun, 09 Sep 2018 07:26:54 GMT
This is an international forum against bullying. You can use translation programs. Languages: German, French, English.
Use simple sentences. Use short sentences.

Short sentences, little translation error. Long sentences, many mistakes.

This forum is supposed to build a bridge between the nations. Also for people who only speak one language.]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, Admin https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10741-simple-posts-against-bullying-discussion-translation-programs https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10737-wikipedia-is-never-a-reference-for-wikipedia Fri, 07 Sep 2018 09:23:41 GMT Wikipedia is never a reference for Wikipedia: a contribution in the German Wikipedia is irrelevant to the French Wikipedia. Original Wikipedia Info: Wikipedia is never a reference for Wikipedia. The fact that your article exists in another Wikipedia is no proof of quality or suitability. And that article is accepted on the German Wikipedia, is incomprehensible to beginners ... I mean, if a contribution from Wikipedia is checked in Germany, then it should also be accepted as a reference in Wikipedia France. One Wikipedia does not trust the other? What do you think? Original Wikipedia Info: Wikipedia is never a reference for Wikipedia. The fact that your article exists in another Wikipedia is no proof of quality or suitability. And that article is accepted on the German Wikipedia, is incomprehensible to beginners ...
I mean, if a contribution from Wikipedia is checked in Germany, then it should also be accepted as a reference in Wikipedia France.
One Wikipedia does not trust the other? What do you think?]]> bullying, cyberbullying, bashing, me too, poly-tikker https://www.mobbing.net/forum/bullying-problems-with-neighbourhood-cyberbullying/bullying-cyberbullying-bashing-me-too/10737-wikipedia-is-never-a-reference-for-wikipedia