New job your assessment

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• New job your assessment
• Hello everyone,
• I'm brand new here in the forum 41j and m.
• I struggle with myself all the time and now I've finally got over it, I can write it down here because it weighs on me and I haven't talked about it in detail with those around me either. It just takes a lot of effort for me to burden someone with it.
• I would like to get an assessment of my situation first, because it is often seen quite differently by those affected and by outsiders.
• The following situations:
• After 17 years of successfully and happily doing the same job (before that I worked in a different department for a few years, but always for the same company), at some point I thought I just wanted to do something new after such a long time. So I decided to change jobs internally on my own initiative. (The new job pays better and is more demanding, and I have the qualifications for it). However, it is completely different from previous job, so to speak, I'm changing careers and have to start from scratch, which I also communicated at the interview. The boss said he was restructuring the areas of responsibility so that my co-worker would get a new, similar, somewhat more demanding task and I would get his minimally easier area. In addition, he (the co-worker) is supposed to move his workplace and I will be put in his place... I had nothing to do with the decision, but it makes more sense for logistical reasons.
• I have to admit that a bit of favouritism was involved, which may have had an impact.
• I started in this department at the end of October:
• First day: brief introduction from the boss, setting up the PC, getting software access, etc. The person training me was supposed to help me with this, but he was very busy. I was understanding about this and had to take care of most things myself. My first day at work was unprepared by him. The boss came over and told him to show me everything. When I asked him what exactly, etc., Then the boss said please start from scratch. You could tell from his expression that he didn't like that at all. Just to clarify: I'm a career changer
• Then everything takes its course: he shows me something once (sometimes complex, elaborate things). Then he says something like, ‘You can do that now, next time you do it yourself.’ (I often can't even keep up with writing it down.) When I ask him to please , he just gives me annoyed looks and breathes loudly. If I ask him the same thing a second time, I almost have to persuade him to show me again. But he's always unfriendly about it.
• If I get stuck somewhere, I'm just told that we've already done this and you can do it. Unfortunately, that's of no use to me. Sometimes I can ask other colleagues who explain it to me calmly and I understand it afterwards. Unfortunately, that's not always possible because he is actually responsible for me and because I get certain information from him since I am assigned to his area. (The others have been with the company for many years, but he hasn't).
• He also unsettles me by asking me when I want to solve something independently, with what are you doing, why are you doing that, what did I tell you how to do it? You could have done this and that in the meantime.
• And he sometimes talks to me like I'm a child, and of course others notice that too.
• Nobody says anything, though.
• He criticises: ‘It's so difficult with you, I can't explain everything to you a thousand times (he does it a maximum of 2 times).
• It's a lot of work for him at the moment, but he still finds time to play on his phone for half an hour.
• The boss is currently on holiday for a long time and before that on a business trip, so I don't have an official point of contact either. There is a substitute, but she doesn't interfere. I get along with everyone, I'm basically a guy who has to get along with, I'm always friendly and helpful.
• Unfortunately, it has now come to pass that I feel insecure and unfocused in his presence and therefore make mistakes, which he then, of course, proudly points out to me. ‘This must not happen, how many times have I shown you this now?’ Always in the sh..ton, etc.
• I enjoyed going to work in the years before and often looked forward to it because I had great colleagues and a great boss.
• Unfortunately, the opposite is the case.
• And now it's unfortunately also the case that I can't switch on anymore because it bothers me too much.
• I haven't been able to go to the boss yet and I don't want to because I'm being careful so that it doesn't escalate.
• Talking to him in the same way is also unlikely to go well, because his tense nature and his mood towards me would not allow a reasonable conversation.
• He is always nice and funny with his colleagues (he also has to ask them something).
• I just want to know how you assess the situation and which strategies make sense.
• I have already gone through all the possibilities in my mind, but I actually want to stay because I have always been fine there and I used to get nothing but praise and recognition.
• PS: I think the boss will be informed about my absence through official channels, but I don't know for sure.
• Maybe one of you has had similar experiences, any information would really help me.
• But I haven't sought help yet, because my strategy was to sit it out and hope that I would finally be able to work independently. And then finally to get away from him, because I would then have to move. At the moment he has his eye on me.

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Hi Tim,You seem to be in a slightly higher position already. If you are going to make accusations of bullying, they should be well-founded and serious. People in higher positions are expected to be able to solve minor bullying problems themselves. It may be appropriate to wait a while and gather material before going to the boss.