New colleague. Bullying?

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Hello, everyone,

I'm writing to you because I'm really at a loss. I am 42 and work in an office job. Due to a private matter, I reduced to part-time about 1.5 years ago. In addition, a new colleague was hired at the end of last year to support. He is sort of like my assistant (but works full time). I found him to be very friendly and attentive at first and also took a lot of time to train him in the processes. I am out of the office one day a week and I am starting to feel like he is undermining me. This can be things like him not notifying me of calls ("went down"), not forwarding emails or not CCing me ("got a handle on it, what's the problem").

The best is yet to come: Of course I have spoken to him about it. Several times, in fact. The answers are excuses, explanations or, like last week, even REPROACHES!!!! I shouldn't be so controlling, he could do it. I'm not one to invoke hierarchies, but he also doesn't meet deadlines and I have to rework things. At the same time, he has supposedly plausible explanations ready for all incidents, which makes it difficult for me to make things tangible to my boss. It has gone so far that I can hear him whispering to other colleagues and when I enter the room, the conversation is immediately over. He also no longer greets me or even just leaves without saying anything.

What really makes me despair is the fact that yesterday a colleague came to me and asked if everything was okay. I was quite surprised because I am quite tough professionally and don't mix my professional and private life. It turned out that the colleague in question claimed that he had to iron out some of my mistakes and that he was worried because - and here it comes - I was "slacking off so much in terms of performance". ???? I always give 100 per cent, what's the point? How can I make my boss believe that something is wrong? Or am I exaggerating?

I am very grateful for any opinions!

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The best thing you can do is to present yourself to your new colleagues as an outsider. Let them know that you understand that it takes time to build relationships with colleagues and that you are willing to do your part in building a cozy team environment. Be the first to make introductions and mingle. The easiest way to get over the difficulties is to smile, laugh and be friendly. The more you accept your colleagues and show interest in them, the more they will accept and like you.