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Good morning,
I have worked at my company for 3 years and have loved my job. It was always fun and I felt valued. That has changed drastically. A few months ago, a new employee was hired who I don't get along with.
At first, I didn't attach any importance to it. There are always people with whom you don't get on as well as with others. However, this person really took over the department. She immediately took on our superiors and also the other department heads. She is very well respected there. She behaves very differently towards me. If I say something, there is no answer. Information is withheld from me. I am often not greeted.
Before this person, I was responsible for the induction of 2 other colleagues. Both inductions were very successful. One of these colleagues is no longer with the company because she had to move for family reasons. This colleague was replaced by the "new one". As she took over the position of the colleague who had unfortunately left (i.e. my direct colleague), I assumed that I would also take over the induction here. This was changed and she was trained by another employee, who is based far away, via team meetings on the computer. So far so good. I was a little surprised. She didn't contact me with any questions either, even though we were sitting in the same office. I found that strange. In the end, I came to terms with it and remained as neutral as possible and continued to offer my help. Just because I don't like someone very much, I still behave appropriately. What I find bad is .....ing. To be clear, I can also work well with people I would never have anything to do with in my private life. She's not the first colleague I've disliked on a personal level.
This woman has managed to be very well regarded by our line manager, who is also our managing director. At the same time, my reputation in the company has plummeted. Other colleagues have also stopped saying hello to me. These are the ones who get on well with the "new girl". There was a situation with one of them: I was standing outside with another colleague, he joined me and I greeted him normally. This colleague completely ignored me and greeted the other colleague with a handshake. That kind of thing is hurtful.
Last week, a long-serving colleague was dismissed without notice. It was very sudden and unexpected. Okay, he was always a bit difficult and was often verbally out of line. For example, he wrote in the company chat that he wouldn't save the phone numbers of new colleagues until the probationary period was over. I thought that was very wrong, as the new colleagues also read this. But well, we always knew he could be like that. We didn't expect him to resign.
The new colleague knew about the dismissal because she gets on so well with the manager. She then also said that there would be further staff appraisals. I have my appraisal interview with the managing director and a colleague from the HR department next Tuesday. The managing director spoke to me briefly beforehand. It was mentioned that my way of communicating would give rise to criticism. I wonder how I'm supposed to communicate if I don't get any answers or am not even greeted. I would like to point out that I continue to greet all employees because that's the way it should be. I was also accused of having been sick before. I've had 13 sick days this year and am the person with the least absences. Only the "new girl" has fewer. It would be a shame if that were different.
Before the new one, there was only one bad day in the time I worked for the company. Now there are only bad days. Work is no longer fun. I have severe insomnia and am thinking about getting sleeping pills so that I can sleep through the night again. When I do sleep, I have nightmares about work. I'm worried about my current alcohol consumption. I don't like to eat. I work from home whenever I can. Quitting is out of the question for me, after all I have to earn money. But the way the "new girl" has announced further staff appraisals, I assume that the decision was taken away from me a long time ago. Before the new one was hired, there were two job advertisements. One was for the current position, the other (as yet unfilled) was for the head of department. The way things are done here, the way the new employee is involved in areas of management, I assume that sooner or later she will take over as head of department.
What has happened, in brief:-
Exclusion (when I ask if someone wants to go on a break, no one goes with me. If I come back, the others go on break)
Withholding information (when she gets new information, she shares it with another colleague, not with me)
No communication (I don't get any answers, sometimes I'm not greeted)
The staff meeting with unfounded accusations
Perhaps this all sounds trivial and unimportant. But the situation is really bothering me. Whoever reads this, thanks for hanging in there and have a nice day