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Am I trapped in a toxic partnership?
At the moment I no longer understand myself. How could this happen to me? I met a man on holiday three months ago. He is a board member of a corporation. A really attractive man and I was sure at that moment that this was the man of my life. But after two months I realised something was wrong. He treats me badly, out of nowhere. Then his voice changes. For example, he says, "I wouldn't carry bags for a woman. How ridiculous it looked when my CFO came out of the supermarket carrying his wife's bags. The whole company laughed!". I was horrified. But something is also wrong, why would the whole company have laughed? Again and again he says to me that I have to work out the relationship. Do we have a relationship or not?
I don't know what to do. Somehow it is getting worse and worse. Remarks like: "I need a woman who helps me out!" or "I make my own decisions" make me very doubtful. He decides when we see each other and when I don't answer the phone, a WhatsApp message comes immediately. This one is friendly though. Jealousy is not apparent to me. His criticism of his past relationship was that he can't have it when he has time, that his partner doesn't have time. His ex went to the Oktoberfest with colleagues, despite the fact that he actually would have had time for her spontaneously. Can such a man still change?