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It's probably strange to write something on this topic as a man. Most of the time, it's probably us men who get assaulted. But in my partnership it is so that my girlfriend does not accept my boundaries.
I have to say that as a child I had to experience my mother going over my limits. After bathing on Saturdays, she used to dry me off while stroking me uncomfortably. I didn't want it, but didn't resist either. My girlfriend likes to take the initiative during sex and caress me. Most of the time I think it's nice, but sometimes feelings from before come up and I can't stand the touches, especially in my private parts. Then I literally freeze, the old feelings of powerlessness are back.
I tell her to stop. Sometimes I even hold her hand briefly. But then she always tells me not to make such a fuss, that it's nice after all. How can I get my girlfriend to be understanding? I have already told her my story, she knows about it. I am really desperate. Or am I really making too much of a fuss?
I have to say that as a child I had to experience my mother going over my limits. After bathing on Saturdays, she used to dry me off while stroking me uncomfortably. I didn't want it, but didn't resist either. My girlfriend likes to take the initiative during sex and caress me. Most of the time I think it's nice, but sometimes feelings from before come up and I can't stand the touches, especially in my private parts. Then I literally freeze, the old feelings of powerlessness are back.
I tell her to stop. Sometimes I even hold her hand briefly. But then she always tells me not to make such a fuss, that it's nice after all. How can I get my girlfriend to be understanding? I have already told her my story, she knows about it. I am really desperate. Or am I really making too much of a fuss?