Horror holiday 2022 - Partner problems on holiday - Heat waves in summer and their psychological effects on partnerships - the dybbuk strikes. Ironic view of a partner crisis

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Unfortunately, the story does not have a happy ending. First, the lady passed on my personal emails. Some of them were then held in front of my face by another person on facebook, and some were commented on quite nastily. That was really the ultimate in indiscretion.
She cried to a woman who calls herself a therapist - self-taught. An absolute catastrophe how this woman tinkers in the psyche of other people.

Overall a human disaster : my ex and the pseudotherapist.

The disclosure of my emails was a very nasty indiscretion. There is nothing to discuss. Then added to this was a loss of reality that is clearly in the pathological realm. At first, I thought it was mostly the heat's fault. But, even when the heat was over, she kept on lying and trying to pin nonsensical things on me.
Fortunately, I have some bank receipts that prove how much I gave the lady and that all her statements to the contrary are absolutely ridiculous. All in all I can be glad that the relationship lasted only half a year.

[Charline Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Charline]

Good that you were able to work through the relationship intellectually and ironically. A woman who goes to a self-proclaimed therapist (autodidact !) is really out of line. Passing on private e-mails is the very last thing. The way you describe it, the woman has really deep-seated problems.
With all the grandkids and the rest of the mishmash, plus heat, she was probably completely overwhelmed. Then she blamed you and her world was fine again. Apparently! Positive aspect, you got out of the problem in time.
Experience shows that psychological problems increase with age. In addition to the little tricks and lies, there are also faulty circuits in the brain (e.g. arteriosclerosis). According to experience, this becomes very bad.
Probably she will not have the apnea treated but will let the pseudologist lay her hand on her.

[Hagrid Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Hagrid]

The idea that a person is afflicted by a being (demon, dybbuk, succubus, etc.) and listens to its whispers explains many activities better than modern psychology does. At least that is how I see it. While for decades it was customary to blame the parents, now the grandparents are involved. We are no longer far from original sin. And another small step and we are with ghosts, demons and devils.
I was in a toxic partnership for years. With therapy, partner counselling etc. Nothing made a positive change. Finally I gave the dybbuk (virtual) a few kicks and the problems were solved.

[Lanester Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Lanester]

I think it doesn't matter whether it's dybbuk or borderliner. This was a toxic relationship. A mother who denies her son contact because of an imaginary problem is definitely on the borderline.

As for your relationship: a discussion after the "holiday" would have been normal behaviour.

What the lady did was just sick.

[Rosi 285 Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Rosi 285]

Despite the irony, an insightful text. The problem is that the lady probably shows no insight. She will not have the sleep apnea treated, "because nature judges everything itself". A difficult situation. One would like to help, but the lady's overconfidence destroys any help in the beginning. Get out of the situation: new love, new life ! Good luck

[Noel Erfahrenes Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Noel]

new love, new life ! From me also : good luck !

[Matissette Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Matissette]

I have the same picture. Isn't that great !

A question about longcovid : several references to this problem appear in the text. What was the effect of longcovid ?

[Burgmauer Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Burgmauer]

First of all, there is the question of where the virus came from. If it was constructed, then a long-term effect could also be intended. I don't want to paint the devil on the wall, but many things point to it. Longcovid reveals the same elements of surprise as Covid 19 itself. Many symptoms can point to longcovid. Fatigue is one symptom. But, it's a very common problem. So is depression. Something more specific is abnormal blood counts. Or, sudden increase in resting heart rate with no apparent cause.
The vacation story, I find very interesting by the way, as I have experienced similar things. How longcovid affects relationships, that could be a hot potato. Divorce rates are already high anyway. The sudden decision of the woman in the story could be longcovid induced. A blackout for a few minutes and then you are no longer able to make a correction. Or one does not want to.
Longcovid could actually express itself as a dybbuk, strike brutally and lead the medicine around by the nose.

[Zimbal Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Zimbal]

First of all, there is the question of where the virus comes from. I think from the pangolin. Or from bats. An artificial virus would be far too dangerous. Especially if the "others" notice it. With longcovid, we put in everything, including hair loss and impotence. I don't really believe in longcovid.
As for the "problem", that shouldn't be overstated. Some people fight over absolutely nothing and then even break up. Sometimes just because of a stupid remark.

[Horror 2.0 sehr erfahrenes Mitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Horror 2.0]

For your interest and the many likes I may thank you very much. I didn't expect that my horror vacation would cause so many positive reactions.
Regarding the effects of longcovid on partnerships or friendships, interpersonal relationships in general, I have the impression that the stress resistance has decreased. It cracks and grates on all fronts.
The mixture heat and longcovid is certainly a high stress for all kinds of relationship and living together.
I have various symptoms due to longcovid and medical professionals are quite clueless about it. Temporary treatment : aspirin.

[Kratzfest Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Kratzfest]

Wow, a huge report ! What I don't understand is why you didn't leave or drive after two or three days? Are you a practicing masochist ? Before I melt with self-pity, I draw consequences. I would have simply left after a few days, because it was not such an intense relationship. You leave before it becomes a disease.

[Horror 2.0 sehr erfahrenes Mitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Horror 2.0]

I also considered after already two days whether I should not better leave. Ultimately, it was a practical consideration that kept me from it. The lady had my car, a not exactly small car, loaded to the top. If I had left early, she would have had to rent a car to transport her things back. In hindsight, it would probably have been better to let her sit on her pile of luggage.

[Picadilly Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Picadilly]

long covid as a relationship killer ? First of all, covid and quarantine was already a relationship killer. Violent problems in the domestic sphere. Probably more broken than without quarantine !
Longcovid is not yet well defined as a disease. But neither is Covid 19 with all its variations. if it is not even clear when the variations stop, how should the long term consequences be defined ?
As for the relationship, the woman was clearly overwhelmed. But how often are you confronted with such a heat wave in life. In crisis situations, the true strength of man is revealed ! The clearing of the dishes in the presence of the children was pure chicanery. I would have rather let the plates "fall" on the floor.

[Simplicissimus Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Simplicissimus]

Let me guess, the woman is divorced and the "shadow of the bad ex" keeps coming back. Then she projects the old problems into you and you are the scapegoat. The unresolved issues and hatred for the ex-partner has probably created more problems than the heat or long covid. There are probably still the problems going back and forth in the family. Who talks to whom etc.
Am I right ?

[Zweig Forumsmitglied Alle Beiträge durchsuchen Profil ansehen Schließen Zweig]

It's not worth having an eternal discussion about spilt milk or yesterday's snow. On to new shores .... !!!